BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids NO MORE BABYSHOWERS 4 ME!!!!

Went to my DH cousins babyshower yesterday and sitting there playing the stupid little baby game starving to death (cause the shower didn't start on time) I decided "That's it! NO MORE"!! Why do we have to play the games BEFORE we can eat?! And Why do we have to open the presents BEFORE we have cake?!? And all the Oooing and Awwwing and That's so cute [censored] in between! I'm done! No more! Heck I just go for the food and cake anyway!!! And to tell ya the truth neither was worth 4hours of sitting through all that [censored]!

Could have been worse. I've heard of some that involve melted chocolate and a diaper!

The last one I went to...the little soon-to-be brat got so much [censored] that I decided I didn't like the spoiled rugrat already, and it wasn't even born yet.

Four carseats? One for mommy's car, daddy's car, and each grandparent's car? Give me a break, people.

Wow, maybe because it's not about you. If you're that self centered, by all means, don't go to them. I'm sure the mother-to-be would rather not have you there anyway with that attitude.

Juanita I've been to a few where they also got tons of [censored]. I'v also stopped going to them. I send a small gift, usually a few books. People don't like it when all they get is books. I guess since I'm not spegning $800 on that bugaboo frog stroller [censored] I'm not worthy.

The last time I gave a kid a book the mother and father just tossed it aside, well a few months later all that kid wanted to do was read! So there!

bellringr's response is completely out of line! This is a forum where us CFers are free to express our thoughts without the pressures we constantly face from the public. If you don't like how a CFer blows off some steam on this forum than too bad. "Thou Shalt Not Judge Thy Neighbor", but since your at it...it sounds like you have a large stick up your [censored].

Thanks deisignerjen! I kinda felt bad there for a second for ventimg this issue but your right! This is where us CF people go to vent and see what other CF people think if their in the same boat! Oh and they did have the melted chocolate diaper game and it was sick!! That'll sure turn you off from candybars fast!! I was telling my DH it's funny but their first breath say when are you going to have any?
Then their next breath they tell their horror stories getting up 14 times a night then having to watch them all the time and them driving you nuts with Mommy mommy mommy all the time and I
say you know that's why I don't want any and their next breath "Oh but I love em and I wouldn't change it for the world". Which of course they have to say that or they'll seem like bad parents. But it all goes back to "misery loves company"!~

I too recently went to a baby shower and left feeling attacked, uncomfortable and completely humiliated. In the middle of the mom-to-be opening her gifts I was suddenly besieged by everyone at the shower with the dreaded question of "when are YOU having a baby?". I politely but firmly said, "luckily in this day and age having a baby isn't the only goal for women. My husband and I want to travel, have successful careers and own a home." I was trying not to insult the mom-to-be and the choice she made. After all, I was there supporting her decision although different from mine. However, her pregnancy was a "surprise" and she's still trying to adjust to the idea. They're forceful questions not only humiliated me but also caused embarrassment for her.
I will not go to another baby shower!

I would have asked for something to eat---low blood sugar is no fun and could have contributed to the so-called 'attitude'. it IS all about the baby however--that's is the whole point. So I just make the most of it. I figure hey--the woman needs some thing to remember since she is not going to have any more fun for the next few years. And books are a great gift! I always give books on any occasion! and I also try to give the mother something personal too--like a bubble bath or a nice candle. the games are stupid. One baby shower had the labels removed from the baby food jars and we had to identify them--I won because I feed my cats baby food. Another game was with a table full of little gadget goodies and then it was covered up and you had to remember as many as you could.
you can always volunteer to do kitchen duty--and skip the games and have access to the food... but if you don't have to go--don't!
I always thot it would be fun to combine baby showers with other occasions--like a Halloween Baby Shower with demon babys and tiny little ghosts and skeletons decorating. You could play with a Ouija board or a pnedulum instead of the poopy diaper game. What about a Lingerie/Baby Shower for the mother AFTER she has it? You could even get a stripper for that one!
^^^ maybe this is why I don't have any childful friends?

Funny, I'm CF and have just as much right to tell you that you're being a self-centered whiner. It's attitudes like yours that make people with children attack us. When I go to a shower, I'm there to share in the person's happiness. If it isn't someone you care about, why do you go in the first place?