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I am new to step parenting & my boyfriend has a boy 12 & girl 10, with full custody. Their mother rarely sees them (her choice for the last 4 yrs of the separation).

I need advice on dealing with what appears to be a lack of respect by the girl for my & his time. This often occurs... again last night:

I call, daughter takes the call, Dad is busy so he tells daughter to say to me that he will call back later. He does. We chat. Daughter then starts demanding Dad/BioDad gets off the phone so he can read to her (not a regular event). Crescendo of repeated loud tantrum yelling from daughter in the backgroung of "Get off the phone!"... he cuts our call short again.
This time I challenge him on him not making her understand the time we have on the phone together is our time. Big disagreement. He gets very angry & hangs up on me. He has said sorry, but the problem is not being addressed by him, I feel.

This type of thing happens a lot with the daughter. (We don't live together.)
Daughter often makes loud interrupting questions to her Dad when he is talking to me on the phone & she maked loud complaints complaints, like:
"Dad on why does "SHE" have to be on the phone to you?"
"You've been talking to each other for ages"
"Why do you need to keep talking to her ?
Can't you hang-up" etc.
He has always cut our conversation short when this happens, which is giving-in to the child, rather than telling them it is our time when we are speaking to each other which has to be respected.
I certainly can see the bioparent's view - especially when it's easier to just give in & not deal with a tantrum or sulking child.
Any suggestions ?

Albatross welcome back,......I truly think there is no way to give you an answer in regards to how to handle this issue with your stepkids .......this is something their father needs to address......their father also needs to put his foot down to handle this issue with his kids......I fear if this issue is not address their action towards you will continue.........I still think the anger his kids have is towards their mother...and by taking their anger out towards any motherly figure who is dating their father....they may have fear you may do the same thing their mother is doing to them now......I would ask you to address this matter with your boyfriend to find out what kind of relationship they had with their mother before the divorce ....your boyfriend can not just push this issue under the rug.........with his kids......this is something he needs to deal with..............

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