I agree, in that scenario everyone would have to be in agreement.
Weighing all of the issues here, there are a lot of valid points. I can feel how the second wife is percieving the situation and based on just what I'm getting, I feel at least a good part of this can be validated in feeling she may be walking with her husband in his previous wife's shadow.
If the husband has a double plot and feels strongly about being buried with his first wife, If I was the husband I would ask if my current wife would be against, when her time comes, being burried along side of me in my families plot. I would explain I have a large family and I want to symbolize my connections with my children, previous wife, etc. but that she too is a very large part of my connection in this life and love and want to symbolize that as well.
Me just being me, but I read the poster is against this, I would have myself cremated with two plaques, one with my current wife and one in the family plot. I would ask my ashes to be spread at both sites and knowing me, probably near an ocean or lake - someplace that spoke to me.
Like many of the posters have already written, when you pass, a great deal of the physical hang ups are released. Your personality is in tack, but what seemed to be important or barriers, become almost like a distant dream.
I crossed briefly, only once when I was ill and the sensation is difficult to describe. You know who you are but it's more of the person you were and not the name so much - but it's there. You almost have to recall it. Earth bound issues became more of like trying to remember work when you are in the midst of a vacation. So much for descriptive words...
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