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I'm pretty critical in my own field, but in the same way I'm interestest in how our men feel?

What is it that men LOVE about women and how do you feel, if you care to share, what it is you'd like your mate to understand better?

Overall,

Though there's no such takers quite yet (how our men feel)

I'd like very much to share what it is I've come across and actually they would very much like to be heard...

"The Weight of The World Feels Upon Their Shoulders"

"They don't understand how working the basics, somehow offends the one they love."

"They want you to be a part of everything, but you like shopping."

"Sexual relations...well for them it's a release. For us, it's relaxation." Same thing only different...kind of like the glass half-empty/half full thing.

"They like NOT to think too much (in general) about feelings and such."

BUT if you happen to have one that does...count yourself a blessing. It comes in handy, especially when it comes to communication

most of them don't like going shopping

well-said Janet

That's VERY true.

BUT, there's this line in the movie, "The Break-Up" w/Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn.

I liked the way the movie presented both sides.

Jen says something like, "It's not about liking what another person does, it's about wanting to spend time w/the person you love, who likes it."

I'm not into video games, but I'll sit through them and try to get the excitement and my husband says he loves that.

He works 3rd shift and right now he's sleeping in a parking lot waiting for a pharmacy to open to get some medicines for me after a 12 hr shift.

It's not always like that, we fight, release and stuff, but I think it's the yin-yang or trade-offs that make a long-term relationship something each person wants to do for another

...but some of them do Janet! My husband. I hate shopping unless I'm buying food. He can spend hours shopping for anything. lol

I'm the same, lol.

I love to cook...now imagine someone who LOVES food deals, but has agoraphobia and it's WM we're talking about...ya, he goes with and HATES it.

Food I'll do, mall shopping, he likes going there Me, not so much. I don't even try an item on if I have to get it for like a wedding or something. I'm in an out and that's it, unless of course you get me into a candle shop.

Essential smells and oils, that I can do

The last two guys I was with seemed to like shopping enough. It helped when I wanted some company! But mostly I only shop when I have to get necessities. I am not fond of malls.

Me too...I mean it can be fun like say my folks are out in the Martha's Vineyard proximity and it can be fun going to these quaint little shops, mostly entrepreneurs.

But MALL SHOPPING...I remember, asking my husband if I could just put the passenger side seat back while he did whatever he wanted...unless he wanted the company.

Sometimes he does Just like a normal human being, lol.

Lol! This is such an amusing conversation. So many of us are so much alike.

I always tell my husband when he gets miffed at me...you should be grateful you have me. I don't spend money on make up, clothes for myself, I own 2 pair of shoes and a pair of flip flops...I shop for you and the kids and bring stuff for you all...I buy my box of $10.00 hair dye (or cheaper with coupon)..lol..cut my own hair sometimes...so if you don't like me maybe it's time to get a better job and support a superficial new wife.

That is always said in a light tone...it's never an argument..and then he just shuts up! He knows where he's lucky! But he can shop all he wants, I'm not going with him! lol.