BellaOnline Forums Relationships Domestic Violence What's the safest way to leave with children?

This is not a permanent separation. We are getting professional help, but I want to live in a nearby town until I feel safe enough to live in the same house again. If it's done as a show of strength, I know he will react badly, so that's not an option. I think the children are safer if he's not threatened with losing them completely. He doesn't abuse them. I also want to leave open the lines of communication to keep working on the GOOD patterns. I know I need to leave with vulnerability and humility, assuring him that 'I do love him but I'm a total wreck and need to recover for a little while'. But I want to hear from someone who's done it coz I feel so unsure about how to do it!

Well, the solution took care of itself... kind of. He found out that I was looking at leaving (without realising why) and decided that the marriage is over and he's leading the way through a separation. Without fighting or being manipulative or unfair at all! Sadly, I think it's because he feels defeated, but I'm really thankful that a safe escape has opened up for me. I'm also really thankful that he regained control in a way that's not physically violent! Hopefully we can use some time apart to sort our own selves out and maybe further down the track we could try again... maybe.