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No Complain Reboot 13 Day 1 LOL. Still aiming for that 5 day elusive goal. Today it was that the kitchen was so full of plants, dirty dishes, printers, old stereos, etc., that there wasn't one clear spot to put down the mail. I snapped .

And then I took a deep breath, and Bob helped out. We got all the plants outside, now that the last cold night has finally passed. I did two loads of dishes. I have all the printers and stereos documented on craigslist now and they're going upstairs to wait for the requests to come in. I hung up the jackets. So now I'm really happy, because the kitchen and dining area are in great shape.

So I have to learn to take that deep breath when I hit the challenge, and pause. Really, in the grand scheme of things, having a temporarily dirty kitchen isn't that bad.

You're right, Lisa! Not bad at all. Life happens.

BTW, does complaining in your mind count? I sometimes think complaining thoughts...

Lori -

I would say no for now. It's enough of a challenge to rein in spoken comments. Maybe in the future we can work on thoughts, but we'll keep it simple for now .

No Complain Reboot 13 Day 3 - still aiming just for my five day goal for now. So two more days to go. I am learning new patience and "pause" skills every day, which is great. Today looks sunny and lovely. A great deal of things on my to-do list, but I'll take them one by one.

No Complain Reboot 14 Day 1 - it was a bit stressful preparing to go to a wedding today. Bob was grumpy and I got sucked into his mood. I still need to practice to keep myself serene when he gets grumpy. That seems to be my main "trigger" that still catches me now. The rest of the day was calm through .

No complain Reboot 14 Day 3 - I hit a few rough spots but I took a long, deep breath and worked through them. One step at a time!

No complain Reboot 14 Day 4 - getting close to that five day mark! I will strive to be peaceful, calm, and supportive today.

How are you guys doing? Are you becoming more aware of triggers that disturb your peace?

You can do this, Lisa! If anyone can get to Day Five, it's you!

This thread is helping me be more mindful of what is going on in my head and how I express things.

I am becoming more aware of my triggers. Very interesting. I am glad to see what those triggers are because it causes me to do some self-reflection. Why does this upset me? Can I turn this around with love and appreciation? I have so much more inner work to do! But life is a process.

Last night, I slept well. This morning, I got out for my walking meditation and such wonderful feelings and thoughts came to me. The plants, as always, exude the best energy.

The flowers awakened with a long exhalation of perfumed breath. I smiled to know that the sun was still there behind the clouds.

After my walking meditation and a shower, I meditated again (I'm in a meditative study class.)

Later, I was able to visit my mother and uncle, bringing lunch and cooking some snacks for them. Returning home, there were supportive emails from good friends that made me glow with appreciation and love. My adorable chihuahuas make me laugh and smile. My husband shook his head angrily at me to learn I accidentally spent some of the car payment on other stuff then he came in to kiss me and say he was over it.

And I will meditate again at 7 pm. What a peaceful day this is...

While at meeting the other day, several folks asked how I was doing. My response was, "Well, other than the usual aches and pains, I'm marvelous." Was that complaining?

Go Lisa,
We're cheering for ya!