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The USPS delayed the delivery of my priority-mail origami doves and now they won't get there for the peace conference. The USPS said too bad. I was already practicing patience using their automated phone system, which is atrocious, and then the customer service rep wasn't much better. But I did not "complain" - I stated clearly my issue and why their system and response did not match my expectations. They need to know that, maybe someone actually tallies those up. I can always dream.

Today is the 4th Sequential Day of the current "round" in my no-complain project. I need to think of a better way to describe that. I.e. if I complain I start fresh on Day 1. What would that be termed? If I just say Day 1 it sounds like I just began - but that's not it.

In any case, yesterday had a spot or two where I could have complained, and I made a conscious effort to instead express my feelings in a supportive / informative way. So I am content with that.

So far today had a huge potential trigger - my camera's memory card failed on me and lost multiple days worth of files. Including all the daffodil videos I painstakingly took yesterday. But I did not complain or get upset. I have faith that software can recover most / all of them. Plus I had been *told* by my digital photography instructor at the beginning of the class to regularly reformat all my camera memory cards, to prevent this from happening, and I ignored him. So this could have been prevented. I tried a number of free software options but they want me to pay $40 to $70 to actually get the files. So Bob will look into this for me when he gets home.

I had a friend Debi over for a little while, and that was lovely. And we planted some more snow peas, and rinsed our bean sprouts, and I've had two veggie shakes. So all in all even with its hiccups the day is moving along nicely.

No Complaining Project - Reboot 5 Day 5 - a sunny delightful day, I'm mixing up hummingbird nectar. I haven't seen one yet, but I'm hopeful!

oops! Just complained about a scheduling snafu. My mom tried to schedule my graduation party on the day of Bob's gig out in Charlton. Ooops. Starting now on Reboot 6 Day 1 . One day at a time!

Lisa, you are doing an amazing job of being positive and not complaining. It's true that when you ask for a virtue (patience) then you will be given life experiences to grant it. How can you gain patience without it being tried and tested?

sigh.

I learned not to ask for patience! LOL.

But seriously, what happened with all those peace doves that didn't make it in time to the conference? That would be upsetting.

Oh, and I just saw your reply about my kids' laundry! True that I can just ignore their dirty laundry--and should.

Yet, I do not want dirty laundry in the house anywhere as I think that filth attracts bugs and vermin. Plus, it smells after a while and breaks down the fabric of the clothing.

Because my daughter is dependent upon me/us for her care and clothing, I can't ignore that.

I honestly do not control their behavior or activities so this is the ONE thing that matters to me. Bring down your dirty laundry. My daughter just brought down her brother's for him.

I guess I will have to "remind" them and not think of it as complaining.

Lori -

The Peace Doves are currently in Tampa. I check on them occasionally . They will get somewhere eventually. The customer was very relaxed about it, and life will go on. I offered to send them photos or videos or such, but they're so busy they haven't even gotten back to me. I'm sure they'll find a use for them!

Do they have in-room hampers? Can you get them each a portable in-room hamper to put the items in, so then they just have to grab it and bring it down?



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Something cute and fun and appealing?

No-Complaining Reboot 6 Day 2 is going smoothly. Gorgeous sunshine, my schoolwork is set, the clothes are washing, the dishes are too.

No Complain Reboot 7 Day 1 - restarting due to a minor glitch . I was pulling out supplies from my origami shelves, a box tumbled, and a complaint ensued. One day at a time!