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I don't have any similar experience but I'm scared to death about losing my two best friends once they become mothers. They're not at all close to that stage right now, but one day they both could have kids. It scares me. :( My one best friend -who's been in a steady relationship for over a year now- used to tell me all the time how she never wanted kids and had no desire to go through the pain of having a child. But she desperately wants to keep her relationship intact and I see that ending badly for the both of them. Because I seriously doubt that she's going to go through with a pregnancy or childbirth....ever. The other friend likes kids and wants them, but I really get the feeling that she's never been made aware that she has a choice. I kind of feel sad for her in that situation. Like everyone she knows keeps getting preggo, and they all act like it's this wonderful thing. But she only sees it from the point of view of someone on the outside. She doesn't know what it's like to HAVE a kid 24/7/365.

Don't be upset Angie, it's just the normal state of things !
Just think if they'd been pushing it in your face all these years, you'd probably be sick of it.
Plus if you're not that close now, why would they ? they may feel themselves that they're pushing that info on you, and make you feel like you have to buy a present or some such.
It is sad when time moves on, and you lose good friends, but others come along, your life ( and you ) change, and we all get other priorities.
I know some people get annoyed about facebook, and all the baby info, but some old friends I no longer see, but am still 'friends' with keeps me updated.
One friend who I had really good times with about 8 years ago has just had a baby.
It was nice to know, and all I did was 'like' it, but our lives are different now ( plus I've moved away ) so it's all good.

I also had a laugh to myself, as her latest update was about the baby not sleeping at night, and how her and hubby aren't getting any rest. Her friend had put on ; noone tells you about the sleepless nights, we went through that for 18 mths.

I had to laugh at that too.