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My partners daughter - (we aren't married yet)is 17 and just found out she is pregnant- her mum has threw her out, (she says its not because of the pregnancy but her attitude.) I have tried to reason with the mum, but she wont relent and says its the fathers responsibility now. The thing is her father and I have only known this girl for less than two years, - her mother left my partner when she was pregnant and ran to America with the Mormon church and this girl only found out about her father by accident - the mother remarried and SD belived her step dad was her real dad until she was 15 and found a wedding video and traced her father through facebook . My partner was delighted she found him and has been a brilliant father to her since then, with regular visits, stay overs at ours, - the house we live in in mine, not his, but im fine with her staying over-My parter also has another daughter who is very close to her dad, her dad having joint custody and she stays every weekend at ours too. I have 3 children of my own, two of which have left home, and although we have no room, the Sd wants to move in and expects us to keep her and clother and feed her etc. Im not comfortable with her in my home full time, she has now dropped out of college and is sitting in my home all day when her father and I are at full time work all day. Im fed up and dont know what to do, support her and resent her or make her go back to her mother who has made it clear she does not want her, or try to persuade to to go to a nearby sheltered housing unit with the understanding she can come and go back and forward to ours if she is living htere temp until she has the babay

What a tough situation to be facing! And, I'm sure you weren't prepared to deal with this so soon in your relationship with your boyfriend's daughter. But, as you're trying to figure out the best situation for the family, maybe you'll find some help from this [url=http://www.heartlink.org/directors/abortion/A000000305.cfm]article[/url]. It talks about how to help when a teen is pregnant and some things that you'll probably need to consider as you look towards the future. Lastly, I'm not sure what your boyfriend's daughter's plans are as far as raising the baby, but she might find some help from contacting a local pregnancy resource center. It sounds like you might not be in the US, but I know they're pretty widespread and you can probably find one online or through the yellow pages. Or, I work at Focus on the Family and they have some international branches that might be able to make some recommendations (just check out their [url=http://www.focusonthefamily.com/about_us/global-outreach.aspx]website[/url]). So, just some things to look over if you have the chance. Hope it helps!