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I have big problems with an emotionally abusive set of parents. I have an extremely difficult time at home. My parents are always disrespectful of my space, my feelings, and myself in general. They constantly put me down, make fun of me or me views, and belittle me. Whenever there is a conflict, I remain calm (like an adult should)and try to be respectful while they spout rubbish at me, and yes, they have cursed at me before (my mother called me the b-word on more than 1 occasion). There are times when my parents will wake me up after I have gone to sleep at night to tell me what a horrible person they think I am and will yell at me for an hour! This has happened three times and I was bawling afterward and I wanted to die. Another time, my mom yelled at me for about 45 minutes about topics including how nobody likes me and she asked me to list off all of my friends so that she could see if that was enough. After this horrible time, she just sat there and waited for me to apologize (for who knows what) and eventually said,"Well! I think you wasted enough time!" On top of this, they have very strict religious views, they won't let me explore any other world views, and they explain their abuse by saying, " The lord wants us to raise you in a godly way, and because we're your parents, you don't have the right to [fill in the blank]. I really need some advice. I have been to a therapist, but my parents are too crazy for the therapist's perfectly logical suggestions to work. I am only 15 and my parents always make me depressed through all their negativity and constantly tearing me down. Please do not comment that I am too young to know anything or that it's just hormones; I know neither is true because my parents still try to control/manipulate my 4 siblings (who are 22-31 years old and moved out ages ago!). My sister runs the organization in my area that helps victims of abuse and she maintains that our parents aren't really that bad...so I can't really go to that kind of shelter. I am a very good student (ie straight A's and honors classes), so will that help me get away from this abusive home? Please help!

Anyone?

You're in a difficult situation but it sounds like you are handling things well by keeping your cool when your parents over-react. Maybe you could speak with one of the counselor's at your school. They have likely seen these issues before and should have the best ideas to help you cope with the problems.

I have spoken to a school counselor, however she was of no help at all. She just told me to keep doing exactly what I'm doing now and acted like that was a new concept even though I had told her coping isn't enough. I am just very very depressed and I am so trapped.