Hi there, I was just wondering if anyone out there can relate to my inability to plateau. I'm talking about that pre-orgasmic state. Apparently it's really common to get stuck on it, but I don't think I am able to experience it. I have a feeling the reason are psychological, and I'm not really freaking out about it, but at the moment I'm trying to put together a bit of a self help plan for my sexuality because I put my faith away a year ago and I'm coming to realise there's a lot of mental walls I need to break down, so I'm going to be exploring myself some more if you know what I mean. I think it would be great to know exactly what it feels like to plateau. What I find is that it is a LOT of hard work to get to that excited point (basically, very few ideas stimulate me because I was trained to find them all disgusting through my teenhood, so I rely on physical stimulation only), is it intense or not? I basically feel that once I get excited, I'm pretty much all the way, and the slightest touch puts me over the edge. It is impossible to have any more orgasms and even touch myself down there afterwards, it just hurts. I can endure the pain only just long enough to allow my partner to reach orgasm inside me. As you can imagine, it makes sex very hard. I'm dry, dry, dry, dry, then BAM and it's over. It's pretty boring. I have some vague memories of being able to plateau in the lovely time when I was 15 and no one had told me that I must never touch myself or have sex before marriage (yes, sex was such a taboo subject that no one even told me I wasn't allowed to do it, so you can imagine what a shock to the system it was when I found out). I also vaguely remember finding the idea of penetration exciting. I'm going to try going back to old techniques but I'm pretty sure nothing is going to happen. (humping a pillow with my clothes on and thinking a lot about getting caught) Anyway, if you can basically just tell me in simple terms step by step how you masturbate maybe, or if you even just have some encouraging words that would be great. I have a wonderful partner who will do anything to please. Damn shame neither of us seem to be able to work it out.