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I have been so stressed out with work lately and i feel that maybe its me and i hold some of my past to close to the surface and let things bother me that wouldnt a normal person. But today at work i almost lost it and i dont feel it has anything to do what has happened to me, i work in a small office and i usually keep to myself i have a very high stress job and do more work then i should but they wont find it in budget to hire another person to help me. The point of this is i dispatch calls do all admin and warehouse work so i stay very busy and dont have time to play around or gossip not my thing anyway. But i have this one co worker that just rubs me the wrong way he is always so rude and degrading to me and i hate it but to keep a good face i smile and just blow him off. But today he pushed me past the point of just a smile. He kept calling and asking me to do ridiculous things, i waws so busy and so overwhelmed i asked him if he needed direct extentions. He proceeded to tell me to just do my job...its my efing job to do this bla bla bla so after the fourth time i just hung up on him, my boss was behind me and butts in as she always dose. they treat this guy like a god and he gets aways with everything. He had called me a rude B**ch and that by all means was not ok with me so when he came in to work i just avoided he and he comes up to me telling me i need to just do my efing job why cant i just do my job and so on i was so angry i told him please leave me alone and walk away he kept following me telling me im stupid bla bla and i freaked i turned around and lashed out and that not what i wanted to do i said some really hurtful things to him i felt like a failure to have reacted that way. My bosses were all there and not one person tried to step in and now they act as if nothing has happened i hate that its like that i feel like fight or flight all the time here and this is not the first time this has happened here not just with me but others. And for some reason he is a team leader no wonder noone respcts me with him as a role model. I cant very well say anything to my boss he was there and still has yet to do anything about it ya know. I almost want to quit my job and just run away from this town all together i mean this is just rediculous to me. BLA I know this is not domestic related but i need to vent before i blow up inside. It feels like torture here and no i do not get paid enough to put up with kind of talk

Can you talk to HR. Document what he says to you. Talk to one of his bosses. If there is a good person who is on your side, have them back you up and act as a witness. This man is verbally abuisive and unprofessional.

I have had this talk with them more then once, and he got a verbal warning and they made up crazy reason to write me up like i been unprofessional. I have never been in trouble before. HR pretty much told me since i signed it i was quilty of it, but if i didnt sign it i was at risk to loose my job. I just hate how a family owned company can be so stupid and unfair. I cant loose my job so now i just stayed behind scene and stay out of everyones way.