BellaOnline Forums Beauty and Self Self Development Are you a freak or weirdo magnet?

I think it's more about understanding other peoples worldview and developing a more elegant way of relating to others.

Energy vampires are a form of emotional leach that take positive energy from others and give nothing back. The term appears to have been coined by the Satanist Anton de la Vey in the 1960's and found it's way into popular culture. On the Pagan scene it has been used to describe negative-perceived behaviour, usually pejoratively, in interpersonal clashes.

Hi Ian, I never realised that the term �energy vampire� started with Anton de la Vey in the 60s. It produces such a strong visual image! (JOY)

I was attracted to your post because I seem to attract abusive men, and I thought maybe I could gain some insight on what might be going on with me, and why I draw such men, and what I can do about it. But as I continued reading posts, it hit me that I guess I may be considered a weirdo, freak,loser, whatever. In school some people called me weird, and I suppose I probably did seem weird because I was very shy and withdrawn. Back then (I am 50 y.o. now), and have come a very long way, baby!lol! As a child I was sexually abused from the time I was seven until I was 12 y.o.by an uncle, a male baby sitter, and the husband of a babysitter. My home life was extremely chaotic in that my mother had affairs on my dad and took me with her and made me lie to my dad about where we were going. Once there was a girl, when I was in the fourth grade, who had a birthday party, but didn't invite me. Til this day I do not know why I felt safe telling my mom about it, she was very emotionally, and physically abusive to me, but I did tell her looking for some kind of consolation. Later she made me tell my dad that we were going to the girl's birthday party, when actually we were going to meet her boyfriend. This did a lot of damage, I learned I couldn't trust her with my emotions, or secrets. On top of that I did tell her once that my uncle said he wanted to f*** me, but nothing ever happened, the abuse continued. My dad was physically abusive to my middle brother. The funny thing is, when I was in high school people would come to me with their problems all the time, and I was kind of like a counselor, for some reason I was able to help them by giving them advice, but I could not seem to help myself. To make a very long story short, I have been married quite a few times, each time it was an abusive relationship, so after the last divorce in 2005 I finally gave up. Now I just stay to myself, my children and grandchildren, and a few very close friends. I suppose the point I am trying to make is I think everyone is weird, or a better word is different . The thing is we have to learn who to trust, when to stop giving, and helping other people. We have to take care of our self physically, mentally, and emotionally. Knowing when it is safe to listen or help and when it is hurting us is the key. We have to learn how to balance caring for others and ours self. Personally, I am a very giving, loving person so I tend to be ran over by other people. Now I am learning that it is okay to help others as long as I am not putting myself out or being taken advantage of. Just thought this would be an interesting point of view.

Thank you for your point of view on a subject that affects people quite significantly. It�s true that anyone could be considered to be weird in some way by others � it�s simply another person�s perspective. The most important thing is to remember that you are unique. This article may get you thinking about your uniqueness:

What is Your Unique Talent ?

You also mentioned you have �a few very close friends.� Cherish them! Most people only have one or two �True Friends� (if that) as explained here:

Do You Have Any True Friends ?

Thank you again for your post. (JOY)