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Wow i read these sotries and i feel power and strength threw all you wounderful people. It nice to know we can all reach out and help another person even threw our own misery. It saddens me there are so many of us i guess you never really realize how often something happens till you are apart of it. I was with my ex for years and he could be the most gentle kind and loving man, but with those same hands he could tear the soul right out of me. Beat me like his heart was filled with hate for me. I grew up with a stable father but a abusive drug addict mother. I was put threw so much as a child i felt like a strong women its amazing how much things as a child can affect you as an adult. And how weak you can become when your fear is brought to the surface. Its impowering to see and hear of these women you women who have suffered the rath of satin himself and yet pick up dust off and now are out to help another lost and broken soul. so giving so loving its great to see they may have taken your homes your pride your family but they have not taken your love.I pray to have the power you women carry so easily the courage to still reach out into the unknow without fear of abandonment or pain. Im very happy to have found this site

Phyllis, I wanted to say thank you and I feel the same. I hope ya'll can gather my thoughts with all the rambling I do :) Pergatory, such kind, powerful words. I can tell we are all made of the same cloth - strong, durable fabric stitched together with love and kindness. I think any child who witnesses abuse grows up too fast. We are robbed of our childhood in a most disillusioning way. I used to say that there wasn't a relationship I've seen that I could point to and say "that's the kind of love I want." Still kind-of true today. Perhaps that is yet another reason why I settled for what I had. I didn't feel there was much else possible.

Nikkirae, I agreed being robbed of your childhood is i think the worse thing for children now a days it is happing all over and its sad, I think your right i think when this happens we get a sick dillusion in our heads what love really is what a relationship is really suppose to be girls are suppose to believe in prince charming and fairy tale life. I dont think i ever felt that way i always assumed i meet a man who would abuse me cause thats all i ever knew i mean i thought i was lucky he only cheated a few times and still said he loved me the most or only hit me a few time i mean that was love to me how sick is that. But i remeber the love my grandparents had for each other and it was a rare and happy loving kind of way of life. I know one day i will find love a real love that will be true and honest never give up hope in these last few months i have met some of the most amazing people that has sparked the love in my heart again shown me that love comes in many shpes and sizes. Meeting you has reminded me that life hands you lemons and you gave me lemonaide i was so thirsty to and you were there.Love dose not have to come from a man to be a real and needed kinda love. Love yourself you are powerful and beautiful and no matter the evil in this world you have shined in someones eyes and someone looks up to you and loves you completly. I know im greatful for your words :)