BellaOnline Forums Relationships Divorce 2 Months down the line!

Hi all Am new to this but am seeking some advice over the break up of my 5 year relationship. Im not sure if what I am feeling is normal, and although I am able to understand that my relationship was destructive and that I possibly couldnt ever go back. I also am finding it hard to let go. We have stayed good friends and have been doing things together of late. There is absolutely nothing physical going on and we have a good time. I have been seeing someone else casually and dont want to hurt my ex so have kept it from him yet when he mentions he is going out or something I become so jealous and hurt that he is seeing someone else (even though its clearly ok for me to!) I dont understand why I cant just get on with my life and stay friends as we really are suited better like that. Should I be over this by now?

No,

You should not be over this by now.

But...if you've a gent that want's only the security of knowing that you're there, for the pleasantries and all, in the long run it's going to end up feeling emotionally like a sieve.

Your efforts will be driven in purpose to be and do what feels to you to be fulfilling, while the elements within the situation aren't exactly meshing.

Take a stand. Don't settle.

P00pypants,

It is often easy to get comfortable with what we have known even if what we have known is dysfunctional. You have to give yourself time and more importantly space away from your ex... it is the only way you can let go.. the more you see him the more your heart, mind and body want to go back to what has been comfortable to you. We are creatures of habit...even if the habits are bad.