Pretty much it depends on the person you're not feeling a "connection" with or have come to realize they aren't a healthy choice for you. Sometimes, even when you know a person isn't healthy for you, and can't end it, there's a whole 'nother process you've got to work through in learning to find out why you're attracted to something both thrilling and disappointing at the same time.
When it's the latter, you almost have to be the caring parent to the child inside and protect him/her by limiting interactions with a negative person, i.e. change your number, close email addresses and ALWAYS have something special to do for yourself during the holidays, like making a french recipe or learning a skill. Keep yourself preoccupied.
If it's the first few dates type of thing, I let the person know, I'm actively dating and offer up some of my more humorous encounters (date nightmares)...like the guy that flosses his teeth with a piece of your hair or stares stone faced until you fasten your seatbelt without saying a word...fun stuff.
It's almost an equation though. Different people need different tactics. If it's just one of those things you need to end and you've been pulling away, but the person pursues you more, I just explain I need time for myself...nothing's really wrong, but nothing's really right and I need to focus on why that is.
Last edited by Elleise - Clairvoyance; 09/18/11 01:19 AM.
