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This thread we are on here is in the Marriage section in Relationships. There is another section in Relationships called Relationships....go there and my thread is titled, "Boyfriend still in touch with past lovers".

Thank you!

If this is the only problem ... then i think .. men's are not wrong..

But if its for the rest of the article... then hard to believe and trust your guy!!!

I am not married... soo can't comment much about this!!

A man can show his love in many ways. He doesn't have to tell her, although if she needs that, she might need to tell her guy how important it is to her. Be specific; tell him what it is that you need to hear. Use the words.

Ways love can be shown in small ways, too;
Doing the dishes
Washing loads of clothes
Tucking her into bed at night
Shopping for both of them
Mowing the lawn
Watching a favorite show with her, even though he has little interest in it.
Making her lunch

The accumulation of caring acts over the life of the relationship can show love, even if the words are seldom spoken, flowers are non-existant, and the greeting cards stay at the store.

I would honestly rather have the warmth and caring of the little things and a spouse who is faithful, than all of the candy, flowers, cards and loving words, from an unfaithful husband.

I agree. The man in my life may not say he loves me all the time, but he shows me he loves me and cares for me on a daily basis with his acts of kindness, consideration, and respect. Those little things he does is his way of showing me his true feelings and true self, and that means everything to me.

[quote=Connie - ADD/Sandwiches]A man can show his love in many ways. He doesn't have to tell her, although if she needs that, she might need to tell her guy how important it is to her. Be specific; tell him what it is that you need to hear. Use the words.[/quote] This reminds me so much of a book called "The 5 Love Languages" In it the author talks about how everyone speaks a certain love "language". The 5 are Words of Affirmation Quality Time Receiving Gifts Acts of Service and Physical Touch. If one spouse's langauge is "Words of Affirmation" - then it is very important for them to hear "I love you". However the other spouse's language might be "Acts of Service" and that spouse is busy doing things for the other; cleaning house, doing the dishes, etc. It doesn't mean that either spouse loves "more" or "better" - it is just that they need to recognize what their own language is and recognize their spouses', too.

Thanks Chelle! I'm glad that my sweetie and I speak the same language.

The book sounds interesting; I've never read it.

Wonderful book!

100% accurate. Communication comes in all forms.

I think back to when trade was means and communication. It's human nature.

With relationships I think it's pretty much the same thing