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So sorry Kitten! Don't you hate that intuition...sometimes you just wish it was wrong!

Wow! Thanks, Phyllis! I had been thinking about the things my daughter was going through. Then I saw someone on Facebook who had treated me very badly many years ago & broke my heart to pieces when he rejected me, and that's when I decided to write the article.

You're right. So many of us just never quite get over rejections from years past, and they affect who we are today. It's difficult to not allow it to affect our self-esteem, especially when we are rejected multiple times. But it has helped me over the years to think that it wasn't necessarily me--maybe it just wasn't meant to be. I hope that can help someone else, too.

Connie, I do hate it sometimes & I usually wish it were wrong! But I think it has been a blessing at other times. There's that "mommy knowing" thing we have, and it's there for a reason!

Yes, you are right about that! I could tell my husband about my "feelings" and then when it came true he would always be so surprised. I know he isn't in touch with his little voice lol!

You know, when I get those feelings, I sometimes wonder if it's just negative thinking, but then it comes true, and I know it isn't. I mean, these are things that my thoughts don't control because I'm not actually involved. My thoughts can't control (unfortunately!) the way a guy treats my daughter.

Yeah, Kelley tries to get me to not "expect the worst," but when I turn out to be right, he doesn't have an explanation for it. I guess it sounds like I'm going against what I said in the article, but I'm not in this case. I mean, like I said, I don't have any control over that, so my thoughts can't affect it. And if it's true, then it's just acknowledging reality, not thinking negatively. I hope that doesn't sound like I'm crazy! LOL! I don't THINK I'm crazy! LOL!

My husband always tells me I expect the worst. I tell him that way it is easier to deal with when the worst happens!

I know...I feel ya, girl!

Hi everybody, I'm new here and just want to say that the article is great. It's true, we do need to turn to a specialist when we find it difficult to overcome the subsequent feelings, which can be very overwhelming.

Hi, there, Petko!! Welcome to the forum!

Thanks for the compliment! I think you're right. Even if we can identify what the issues are, sometimes we still don't know how to deal with them. Therapists are trained to help with those things we can't figure out what to do with or how to handle.

I hope you come back and join us again! Take care of you!

surely.. when you get rejected you feel that you weren't loved by any one in this world, and not a single person is there for you.. especially when you get rejected by your loved one or a close friend. <a href=BellaOnline ALERT: Raw URLs are not allowed in these forums for security reasons. Please use UBB code. If you don't know how to do UBB code just post here for help - we will help out!