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Hi Everyone:
How do you know you can trust the guy you are dating? I have MAJOR trust issues from the past and have brought them with me to the present(lol).
Would you still date him if you found out he love to watch porn?
Or is checking out the "hook up" sites?
Of course, he says he is just looking.
Thanks,
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NO...
(I know there's more inside me regarding this, but NO is what comes for the time being).
Btw, he's making you doubt your own instinct on this one regardless if you have trust issues or not. A working body does something, oh I don't know...that a digi-ware sites can't. He's got a leg in both worlds.
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I would say yes to the watching porn thing.
As far as the dating sites, have you two agreed to date each other exclusively? If yes, then he has no business on the dating sites. If no, he has every right to keep his options open.
Casual dating is a hard line to walk. It is difficult knowing what is appropriate and what isn't. I think the only solution is to clearly define your expectations early to avoid misunderstandings later on.
The fact that he has told you that he is still on the dating websites shows that he has nothing to hide. (Assuming that he told you about them and you didn't go snooping on his computer or something of the sort).
If you know you have trust issues, take that into consideration and do something about it. It is not enough for you to admit that you have these issues but you must find a solution for them. It is unfair for you to carry this baggage around and dump it on the next man. Unless he has given you a reason to distrust him....Don't.....
But again...this is just my two cents on the subject...it is not like I am a professional or anything.....
Sincerely, JontayAIDS/HIVAIDS & HIV Forum Be Protected... Get Educated... Stay ALIVE!"In order to succeed, simply act as though it is impossible to fail."
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Thanks Elleise for stopping by and responding  NO...
(I know there's more inside me regarding this, but NO is what comes for the time being).
Btw, he's making you doubt your own instinct on this one regardless if you have trust issues or not. A working body does something, oh I don't know...that a digi-ware sites can't. He's got a leg in both worlds.
Last edited by Angela J. Shirley; 05/22/11 03:09 PM.
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Looking into dating sites would be strange if people are in a relationship. This is not even about trust but true involvement and interest in the current relationship.
On porn- many women like porn, too. As long as it is not addition to watch it.
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Hi Jontay, thanks SO MUCH for stopping by and responding. I have responded below as I wanted to make sure I did not miss anything I would say yes to the watching porn thing. The porn I have come to terms with as I watched one with him and to be honest, it was BORING. I guess for years I have refused to watch any and so glad I did, but as I told him, not interested in watching anymore. We can do a better job at making our own-lol
As far as the dating sites, have you two agreed to date each other exclusively? If yes, then he has no business on the dating sites. If no, he has every right to keep his options open. Now this is the complicated part of things. Up until I showed my "butt" - yes to the exclusive. I have hurt him over and over again due to my issues. So to be honest, I have no idea what our status is right now.
The fact that he has told you that he is still on the dating websites shows that he has nothing to hide. (Assuming that he told you about them and you didn't go snooping on his computer or something of the sort). LOL, I found out when I used the laptop he just got for the house and we talked about it. Me in tears and him looking at me like I am crazy.
If you know you have trust issues, take that into consideration and do something about it. Any suggestions? I am open to anything that will help me move past my "trust issues"...
It is not enough for you to admit that you have these issues but you must find a solution for them. It is unfair for you to carry this baggage around and dump it on the next man. Unless he has given you a reason to distrust him....Don't.....You are so right, he has not.
Last edited by Angela J. Shirley; 05/22/11 03:07 PM.
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Hi Dace, thanks for stopping by and responding Looking into dating sites would be strange if people are in a relationship. This is not even about trust but true involvement and interest in the current relationship.
On porn- many women like porn, too. As long as it is not addition to watch it.
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