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Do you really know what is the most common causes that make divorce rate increase? Typically a marriage always starts on a happy note. Both couples are falling in love to each other and the early marriage life is really beautiful. They feel that they are really blessed because they have found a partner for life. This scenario happens repetitively, but unfortunately it also can potentially end in a disaster. Many couples experience negative changes in their marriages after several years. Their happy early marriage lives are replaced by many arguments and fights. Each couple cannot stand each other anymore and they cannot stay under the same roof with arguing to each other. In the end, they feel that the situation has become unbearable and they decide to go for a divorce.

Can I hear read thoughts guys?

Hi Scotyaks! Think the need for a divorce is the main reason why divorce rates increase. However, based from experience there are still institutions that give support for those who are in need.

I think they do not allow each a chance to listen and hear what the other has to say and explain. They won't even lend an ear. They always think that they are tenaciously right all the time. I think after their arguments they wouldn't even allow time to let them realize what started it and what went wrong. That's why they always end up yelling at each other.
They hardly find time to give attention to each other.
And worst of all third party may even cause the break-up. And the third party doesn't even care about the feelings of the other party.
It does sound easy to file for a divorce but the process is too expensive I heard. But once you're fed up on your partner, you loose him/her and find a new, young and fresh and get a divorce again just like Elizabeth Taylor who is married many times.

Monique named a good cause of marital breakdown...third parties. In my marriage, we had a rocky foundation to begin with, but when things started going awry, third parties looking for gossip and despair preyed on that and further caused the problems, and my ex and I let them. In the end, it's the fault of the couple for the lack of communication, respect, trust, and consideration, but third parties can further a shaky marriage to crumble considerably. Marriages fail because we've romanticized how they should be in movies, books, and pictures. We aren't teaching the next generations how to effectively communicate, be respectful, how to fight fair, and what it means to truly love someone and be in a committed relationship, and you're seeing the effects of all that now. Marriage is work. It's fun, exciting, boring, contentment, tiring, depressing, relaxing, annoying, silly, connecting, and meant to be permanent, all in one package, and a lot of people think it will be all rays of sunshine for the rest of their lives, and when the realization sets in that their expectations were too much, it starts to eat away at their relationship in different forms.