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Hi Everyone:

What do you think causes divorces?

I think the recession is not helping at all as more and more folks now have "finances" as an ADDED stress.

You thoughts?

Thanks,

Finances are a big one but sometimes just getting involved with the wrong person and not listening to your gut instinct about that person not being a very good match for you. Women have a hard time with this.

Hi Monica:

Even with being with the right person, I have been hearing a lot of folks just going their separate ways due to one getting "laid off"...

And to be honest, I tend to agree as I know it is hard to find that LOVE when one is either homeless or hungry

Great input as usual - thanks!

Money is a big factor in a relationship and having money problems adds to the stress and can be hard to fix. I do that it an be a big factor in divorce. You become unhappy and start drifting. Its very important to know how to communicate.

After a 19 yr relationship, 16 yrs of which were married, my divorce was due to my husband wanting to have children and I did not. For years he told me he accepted the fact that I changed my mind about having children early in the marriage, but in the end he was lying to himself and to me. He could not accept not having his own family, so he chose to end the marriage.

Hi WhumOwens - not too sure what is going on with your post. Hmmm, is this SPAM? I hope not. If it is not, welcome to the forum

Hi Marky - welcome to the forum and thanks for stopping by and sharing with us

Hi Cassie67 - so sorry to hear about what you went through. We are ALWAYS here for you

Bye for now,

I think for the same reason people get married in the first place - people have wants, needs, dreams etc... I know that is really vague and to me it is suppose to be since there are many reasons in the end people chose to leave one another.

My first husband, because he cheated on me.

My second husband because he wanted to live somewhere else and kept wanting me to move. We're back together now, but quickly headed back to the point that separated us in the first place, now it would be him moving with his mom. I think wnat is scary about it is the first time, I was heart broken, this time, I already know I will be ok. I'll smile, kiss him and wish him all the best. Weird isn't it?

If two people have married for the right reasons - they can't see a life more fulfilling/enjoyable with anyone else but the person they wanted to marry...

Break down of communication. That's it.

Arguements, infidelity, loneliness, whatever life throws at you, etc. Before any of these things happen, there's communication.

There's nothing worse than being a MSP - "Married Single Person."

If your partner comes to you (the other half) of a relationship, and takes the time to talk, listening and actually taking it in, can prevent a great deal of the misunderstandings that end up leading to more distructive and difficult things to rebound from.

Great points Elleise!!! I'm not even sure we are that MSP. We talk, we listen but sometimes it just wasnt't meant to be.

Neither time did my 2nd husband and I separate because we didn't get along. I know that sounds funny, but even after separating the 1st time, we remained the best of friends, calling each other and visiting each other. I definitely agree with your points though!