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I wanted to have a big wedding to invite my relatives from abroad and I always wanted to wear a wedding gown. But then my husband said his folks will not share a penny for the event and they wanted the reception to their house. I said if they are not going to contribute why decide where the reception will be. So I said okay we'll have a simple wedding then.Then my husband said again would I rather have a grand wedding or have a house instead to spend on? For practical reasons, I opted for the latter. Well for one thing you'll surely burn all your money just for 1 day and the house stays on practically for your entire life. So we ended up me wearing a simple dress not a gown and him a barong Tagalog having a couple of sponsors.
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Hi Monique at its best, I have nothing against big weddings as long as I have some place to live after the wedding  So many folks spend mega bucks on the wedding, reception and honeymoon - then come back to the bills and stress!I wanted to have a big wedding to invite my relatives from abroad and I always wanted to wear a wedding gown. But then my husband said his folks will not share a penny for the event and they wanted the reception to their house. I said if they are not going to contribute why decide where the reception will be. So I said okay we'll have a simple wedding then.Then my husband said again would I rather have a grand wedding or have a house instead to spend on? For practical reasons, I opted for the latter. Well for one thing you'll surely burn all your money just for 1 day and the house stays on practically for your entire life. So we ended up me wearing a simple dress not a gown and him a barong Tagalog having a couple of sponsors.
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I always look at both sides of a coin, for me taking a little(or a lot) of each sides good and bad points to reach a happy medium. Housing, is the future and I believe the most important aspect of building a future together. I also am a firm believer in dreams. I feel a wedding is about a couple, and the simple act of marriage is a great dream. Large wedding or small wedding, the end result is the same, a union of two people. My suggestion to people in situations like this, at a point in your life remarry. Re commit re do. Dress it to the nines, pull out all the stops and you will have the best of all worlds, married, happy and an investment in the future.
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Amoeba
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[quote=SandraSableWeddingsEditor]I always look at both sides of a coin, for me taking a little(or a lot) of each sides good and bad points to reach a happy medium. Housing, is the future and I believe the most important aspect of building a future together. I also am a firm believer in dreams. I feel a wedding is about a couple, and the simple act of marriage is a great dream. Large wedding or small wedding, the end result is the same, a union of two people. My suggestion to people in situations like this, at a point in your life remarry. Re commit re do. Dress it to the nines, pull out all the stops and you will have the best of all worlds, married, happy and an investment in the future. [/quote]
Generally speaking,you are a rational person. You would rather focus on your future life. Compared with the style of wedding,you paid more attention to the feelings existing a couple.
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Amoeba
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Amoeba
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To me, I would like to wear a beautiful wedding dresses on my wedding.I think the moment is the most happy time in the whole life.The moment is worth remembering. Maybe having a big wedding is the dream of most girls.However,wedding is form of the marriage. A couple need to spend the whole life to manage.
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I think the most important thing is not wedding, but the real life after the marriage. Of course, under the conditions permit, we could do a little more grand wedding.
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Amoeba
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Amoeba
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Yeah!I agree with you!Fine marriage is the most important thing.
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YES! Wearing wedding dress is the most happy things of marriage. I It's only once in our life! A couple should spend much time to manage.
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BellaOnline Editor Koala
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BellaOnline Editor Koala
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Just yesterday, I was talking with a Bride about compromises in the midst of wedding plans. If a couple can get through planning a wedding, and all the compromises necessary, their marriage should be able to outlast anything.
I think we all have a fantasy about our wedding day. I actually had two, a simple barefoot wedding on the beach, or a full blown military event. We got married next to the Intra-Coastal Waterway, near the coast, with my husband in his Navy uniform. With flexibility and compromise, I ended up with a little of each fantasy. The most important thing, our 18th anniversary is next month!
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Elephant
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If it's important to you to have a big wedding then do it. You won't regret it but if you value peace of mind a lot more keep it simple. You WILL be happier.
My first wedding was under $3000. We got married in Vegas and that included our weekend there. My second wedding was $50 at the Justice of the Peace and no party after. Nobody even knew about it. I'm in a relationship now and would not even bother with this again so for me it's not about the "big day". Do what is right for you.
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