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Hey makesyoulaugh,


And just as the relationship with you and your dad(buddies)you only get one bud! Keep that going! Thanks for dropping back in, come back and visit again!

My father was my hero, my champion, my best friend. He is the reason I am a writer. I wrote a play in the 6th grade, and my English teacher had our class put it on for all the other 6th grade classes. My father inspired me. He told me that I could be whatever I wanted to be, because he believed in me. He died two months before my 17th birthday and senior year. It was one of the hardest years of my life. But what he taught me never left. He inspires me still. He is the reason I love math, science and a good book. The very first book my father read to me wasn't a fairy tale. It was War of the Worlds. Amazing.

[quote]I have a great relationship with my oldest daughter (12) but my youngest one (7) lives in another state and her mother won't even let me talk to her on the phone and when I do her mother haves her call me by my first name instead of Dad.[/quote] I am sorry to hear this, this is extremely sad and upsetting. I would encourage you to never give up on this issue. Go through the courts if you have to. This is something that should not go on and you should not stand for it another minute. I hope you call every day even if it makes your ex mad. Your daughter needs to feel that you are still a part of her life and that you still love her no matter how difficult your ex makes it for you. I can see what might happen to your daughters psyche if this behavior from your ex continues. Your ex is poisoning her against you and it's not right. Your ex is angry at you and is taking it out on your daughter and it's not right. Do not let your daughter grow up like this. Fight against it with all you have. In my own case I had a wonderful relationship with my father. He is gone now. I don't have any doubt that I was the apple of my father's eye. I know he loved me very much. I even look like him. My father was my biggest cheerleader and supporter and was proud of me regardless. My parents divorced when I was 11 but we still lived in the same neighborhood and I saw him every day after school until my mother came to pick me up after she got off work.

Cherish that moment! Thanks for sharing!

My husband and i were separated for a number of years from the time my daughter was 6 until she was 16. She spent every summer with him ( he lived 400 miles away while we were apart). While she looked for his approval (probably more so then mine, because she always knew she had my approval), it was very rough when we got back together.

Her dad was her hero when she was 6, and she always felt that he abandoned her. The fact that he did have a relationship with a woman with 3 daughters, while we were separated, hurt her to the core. I don't know that the relationship can ever be repaired to where it was. I know it hurts both of them deeply, but they are both so darn stubborn.
Now that she is away at college, she calls me constantly but rarely calls his phone unless I tell her that it would be nice if she did. They will talk and laugh, but it's not the true father/daughter relationship that they both want.

I see the choices that she makes in boyfriends and sometimes I worry because I see part of who she picks based on her lack of a relationship with her dad.

Hi Dianne,

I had not thought about it like that. Thanks for sharing!

Thank you, Cash. I will definitely keep trying.

It's not easy when the other parent makes life hard for the other parent and the children have to witness. Thanks for sharing Vance!