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A moment I was glad I am CF: when I woke up this morning. I was having a dream that I had a newborn baby, and I didn't want it at all, I felt overwhelmed with the responsibility, and I couldn't believe I had put myself in the position of having a baby of my own. And the funniest thing was that not me, but my husband had carried the baby for 9 months. He took the bullet because I wasn't up for that either. And I even tried to breastfeed, but there wasn't any milk, as I hadn't been pregnant. And I cried all the time. So did the baby. That's how much I want to be pregnant and have a baby. Phew!

Everyday. From the time I wake up to the time I got to sleep. I like sleeping in till noon, going to bed at 2 in the morning. Being able to do what ever strikes my fancy, be in any mood I choose and never have to "put on a brave face" for anyone. I can spoil my animals properly, When I'm working I have money to spare, I can also squeeze in overtime and not have to worry about calling the babysitter. I enjoy my quiet time and never have to listen to a constant stream of noise for no real reason. I can enjoy watching late night tv, and never have to worry about being quite because I'll wake the kids.
I love being child-free!

Snow days! A lot us in the US have been pummeled by bad winter weather the last week or so, and of course school districts have remained closed. Can you imagine dealing with a house full of bored kids? Plus having to go into work anyway because your employer doesn't think the roads are that bad? What to do if your kids are too young to be left alone? Pay someone if you can find them? What a nightmare!! Thank GOD it's just my husband, me & 2 cats & a dog. Geesh.

I know I started this thread but I wanted to add that these moments appear fairly often for me. Aside from the I'd never want to be preganant, give birth, raise them thing...
1. I feel fortunate that I work part time and get to go to college just because I felt like exploring something. With a child I could never afford either. I take class with a mom of two and she feels like she can't study because of her nagging kids.

2. I feel sooo fortunate that my hubby and I have random date nights, candlelit dinners etc.

3. We can be romantic basically WHENEVER...:)

I have something to add here: promotions! My husband decided to jump at an opportunity in his company, the position of lead driver. That position has been filled for three years (it's a voluntary position, and you can step down after a while, at least that's what I'm told), and the guy that was in it before needed a break from it. This job requires a very flexible schedule - the job description is (basically) as an assistant to the Transportation Manager: you're required to make sure every route has a driver. If someone gets sick, has vacation, or needs some time off (due to FMLA, or whatever) it's the Lead Driver's job to find someone to run that route. Oh, and it pays more. It offers some prestige. And, hubby would get a desk with a nifty little nameplate! :D The only bad part? Late night calls, and possibly having to run a route himself. Not too bad. He already gets those. The company first talked to the assistant lead driver, to see if he'd accept a promotion - but he turned it down! Why? HE HAS KIDS! His wife took off shortly after they moved here, and he was left as the primary caregiver. It's really tough to find a babysitter on VERY short notice, so it looks like the only other person in the company that is qualified for the job is unwilling and/or unable to take it. Now, all hubby has to do is the internal interview! He's a shoo-in! Sweet. :)

This is so funny...lol.I had forgotten about it until reading some of the posts here. When I was much younger...maybe 18-19, i had an older boyfriend. he had a young son (about 4) from a previous relationship who I liked alot. One night we were in bed having some intimate time and sure enough his son woke up and was crying for him. Nothing was seriously wrong he just wanted his father. i remember being SO irritated. we broke up soon after (for unrelated reasons). Imagine how often couples with children go through that. In the middle of a sexual encounter and enter a screaming child...I'm thankful for the uninterrupted by screaming children intimate time I share with my husband!

All the time, every walking hour of every day and night. I love to stay up late on weekends and sleep in late. I love to game, have alone, quiet time, etc. Kids don't fit into the equation.

Alllllllll the time. I see kids on the street and think "thank goodness I'm never having one of those". I see my partner's niece and think "thank goodness I'm never having one of those".

Kids can be great (although very few these days) for a little bit of fun and play, but they're no reversible, so the only option is to give them back, and you can only give them back if they aren't yours to start with :-D

It's 4pm and I'm in bed still, not because I'm lazy but because I've had a ridiculously hectic week, and the sun's blaring in the window, the window's open with a nice fresh breeze coming in, bed is uber comfy and it's quiet and peaceful. If I had a kid I would have had to be up 9 hours ago! Eek.

When I eat popcorn, cheese or ice cream for dinner. I don't have to worry about feeding anyone but myself! When I'm home for the night, and kick back with a big glass of wine and watch whatever I want on tv. When my friends who have children say they can't even have a few moments peace in the bathroom. Having "peace" when I go to the bathroom is definitely something I take for granted, and something I don't ever want to give up! I'm an only child and cherish my alone/quiet time. So pretty much anytime I'm enjoying that.

I often take my circumstances for granted.
That's another good thing about this forum, it makes me appreciate what I have in life.
The trouble is, we're so used to only thinking about what makes us happy - and any whim of an idea can be actioned - or not depending on how we feel. How incredibly lucky - and I must remember to be thankful more often !!

Hubby and I were just saying the other day how fortunate we are not to have the problems / heartache / worry that comes with kids.
And to be thankful every day of what we have.

But isn't it funny, that I'm so used to hearing parents say things like that - 'how BLESSED we are to have a child'
'how LUCKY we are to have little johnny '

And to be able to rejoice with others here who feel the same as us - to feel blessed to have the life I have, NOT to have a child
- to be lucky to have my life without children.
( and to be able to say it to others who agree and don't give you a 'funny look' !! ) :-D