Hey Lauren! Long time no post!
I liked your article very much. Being one who is accused by my partner of being a control freak, lol, I've run the gamut of being hurt, offended, tried to be more passive, and finally gave up and determined that I am who I am. I'm a kind, strong, stable woman who balances checking in on the needs of others with moving ahead and getting things done. I'm also 50, so that might be a coming of age thing too. You can't ever change anyone else, just your own response to them. And yes, once you change your behaviour, you may just get "change-back" behaviour from them. Sometimes what is good for one's own emotional and mental health is not viewed the same by even those who love us. So look after your heart and soul... and use your power wisely!!