BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids What age did you first meet a childfree person?

I agree, Solalux, when I was at uni,and in my 20's many women said they never wanted them, but subsequently had them.
Men, never said that, but then again, kids were never really a discussion at college !
Nor really come to think about it, with my various boyfriends at that time, because I never discussed it - believing I would have kids 'one day'.
However as I got older,into my 30's I realized I had never discussed it, because I didn't really want them at all, and when I married, and felt the immense pressure to procreate, my husband didn't want them either

It's hard to differentiate a true desire not to have kids, until someone gets past the age of childbearing, then I believe it.
- How many women do we all know who get to early 40's and suddenly have a child they never wanted...

There are only 2 women that I know are truely cf . I met them when I was early 30's.

One of them goes away on week long holidays with friends at least once a year, and she says by the end of the week she can't wait to get home, close the door, and get back to pleasing herself.
- noone to argue with, watching whatever she wants on tv, eating what she wants, whenever she wants etc.
I always thought it was sad she lived alone, but as I got older, I realized how completely contented she is - loves her life, wouldn't want it any other way.
The other is my age, and her and hubby have great holidays / short breaks, have good jobs, a great house and plenty money to do whatever they want.

The first person who I meet who was CF is my Uncle about 10 hours after I was born, the second person would have been my Aunt his wife a couple days after I was born. After that I have no idea who the third person I meet who was CF, but I do know many people growing up who are.

Never. Only child free women I've known wanted to have kids but couldn't so they ended up adopting. It has been only now that two cousins of mine have said they also don't want children. But they're still in they're mid twenties and unmarried. So we'll see how that goes.

My mother has two college friends that used to visit once a year or so. One was single, lived in NYC, and probably had one of those "Sex & the City" type lifestyles. She was the fun one that I admired as a young girl. The other one of my Mom's friends has been married forever but they never had any kids. But I never asked why (I'm one of those that doesn't ask the "why" question due to the fact that I get asked it a LOT as a married woman of 10 years). I should ask my mom about her... I also agree with the statement that friends in college/in their 20s usually will change their minds and have kids (even if they've proclaimed they don't want them). I was in a sorority and 95% of my "sisters" have had children by now (I'm 35). In fact, one that has been married for a while like me who I swore wouldn't have them just popped out her first. A few of them don't have kids but I don't know why. I know one is a lesbian and engaged to marry her girlfriend (who knows if they'll decide to have one eventually). One other one...gee, I'm going to come across as really mean here... is homely, a bit socially immature especially around men, and as far as I know has never had a boyfriend. She's a college professor now and is super busy anyway. I just met a woman in my profession around my age who just got married last year. She seems happy with her life the way it is (we're both big animal lovers, too) but I fear that she will end up pregnant soon (although I have no idea - just going by the odds).

From birth (two great aunts and an uncle) and my next door neighbors from age 6 on. In retrospect, both couples seemed more peaceful and content than couples with children.

I was lucky to have some good examples of childfree living from an early age.

I agree that things seem to change once the biological clock starts tic tocking! 3 of my girlfriend's who seemed content not having kids ( 36 years old ) are now all pregnant... I'm happy for them, but also going " Oh No! Really??? ". Hee Hee, selfish me :) I also have 2 lesbian girlfriends, who say, at this stage they will remain CF. My brother and I are adopted and when I told my Mum that I didn't want children she said " Oh that's okay! I never wanted them either, it was always your father that insisted! ". Gee, thanks Mum!

I was in hospital having my tubes tied (sterilization) so that I didn't have to have any more kids after my second son, I was 28 years old and the girl in the next bed to me was having the same operation, she was 21 years old and never had or wanted any children. In the bed opposite us was a woman in her late 40's who had just had her 6th child and the NHS (national health service) had only just agreed to sterilize her even though she had asked for years. It really all depends on your GP (general practitioner) if they let you be sterilized after 2 kids, 6 kids or no kids.