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She is apologizing, explaining her actions..... saying sorry if her words hurt my feelings. Saying this is who she is. (Last time I heard that line was from an abusive ex-husband: "I act badly and treat you horribly. This is who I am. Take it or leave it.") I told her I'll leave it and didn't accept her apology (I have been torn up for days for her to be so nonchalant about this.) Now she is bombarding me with name calling, telling me what's wrong with me, upset that I won't accept her back, upset that a "sister" would act this way, upset that I've blocked her out of my life. Why the heck do some people think you owe them forgiveness? Whhhewww, I feel this tremendous weight lifted. I think I'm kinda glad to be free of her and her sad life. Soo... Nope, you don't earn free passes for bad behavior due to longevity. Yes, it is about me and I'm not putting up with it. Ciao, to you and your issues.

Your friend sounds like a freakin' psycho! I don't blame you for walking away from that friendship. I think you made a good choice. Sorry she behaved that way. Hopefully you can find a real friend from here on.

Thank you, Jellyroll. I don't know what the heck she was going through, but it fired on me. She has a lot of issues and I probably just said the wrong thing at the wrong time to have her boil over. Then after she realizes her mistake, she grasps yet attacks with feelings of abandonment.....at least that's my view of things. I'm not angry anymore, but I still keep my distance. I don't see a productive, worthwhile friendship out of this relationship so I'll probably keep it that way.