Food can heal; food can hurt. Why is it so difficult to believe it can fuel an addiction? People are told, instead, that they lack will power. While some use food to sooth emotional problems, etc...there are those who do have food addictions. Good luck managing yours!
Food can and is a very powerful addiction to many. In my research writing my book, I found that many alcoholics and drug addicts, particularly women, have food disorders as well. These are taken very seriously as many with food addiction/disorders are of a fragile nature. Not because they are weak but because food, something we must consume daily, is their demon.
Those of you with food addictions are no different than those of us with alcohol/drug addictions. It is one day at a time and we have to turn our will and lives over to a Higher Power...whatever or whomever that is for you.
Eat scheduled meals at the dinner table. Don't keep food in your car, desk or nightstand. Lock your purse in the trunk when you go out so drive-thru restaurants aren't accessible. Find someone who will hold you accountable.
A few years back, well several to be exact - I did attend one of their meetings.
It is basically like Alcoholics Anonymous - use the same set up, but geared to food instead of alcohol.
With an anorexic daughter - personally, I don't think it would work as she has the opposite problem - not eating.
Overeaters Anonymous helps folks like myself figure out why they overeat, find solutions to not overeat and of course get support and encouragement from other members. The meetings are usually free unless the person leading the meetings decides to do membership fees.
From my reading - I would encourage the parent to get medical help ASAP. We are losing so many of our young people to this disease. Some hide it so well with wearing baggy clothes. They also recommend counseling that is geared to the issues that a person may be dealing with. Usually it may be low self esteem or peer pressure to be thin.
Thank you very much for your comment Angela, I will pass on what you say to my friend - her daughter is in therapy as we speak and so all of us friends are holding thumbs for a good result.
It also seems that it is a self image and a cry for attention - though just saying it like that doesn't seem to be enough for the damages caused by anorexia and the absolute defiance of everything anyone says to her.
What is it that makes children hate themselves so? What is is that will make a child hurt herself so?
I struggle with my self image every day and right now overeating. What triggers my disease is stress.
Having had to walk away from the relationship I had for the last 4 years and starting over has not been easy. But EACH day I get right back up and TRY to do better than the day before.
I am so GLAD to see that you care as too many times people do not pay attention to the signs. In my family, people are talked about - no one offers to help or listen.
I have tried to explain this to my only child, now 25 as it is sometimes a trend that continues to future generations if it is not understood and dealt with.
My addiction is food - her father's is drugs, alcohol and living on the edge. I have had to forbid her from talking about him like everyone else does in his family. It took me several years to get to the point of understanding his demons. He was there for me and her the best he could. I don't know if she understands how serious these issues can be and as I observe her each day since I am staying with her for now - I am concerned.
All I can hope is that she learns something from my life as I have been very open with her about it. Sometimes we cannot save people from themselves - only they can.
Anyway, did not mean to be so long...
Last edited by Angela J. Shirley; 09/02/1211:57 PM.
I definitely have food addiction. I can stay "sober" for a couple of weeks but then everything falls a part and I go ALL IN, offsetting any progress that I had made previously.
Coincidentally I was at a seminar last night, they talked about small steps. There is a huge scale between eating healthy and unhealthy. Instead of taking the giant leap of going from unhealthy to healthy they discuss taking a gradual approach. Baby steps. Improving the various areas that make up healthy eating slowly so it becomes rooted and consistent.
It made a lot of sense to me, got a kind of A-HA moment. So I will try this approach going forward
Food Addiction is like any other Addiction and you must fight against it
I don't invite my enemies to my home so I don't let myself buy sweets and chocolates. It is easier to control myself in the shop
So, if you are unemployed it must be harder
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Our bodies are set up to crave sweets. We evolved in a time when high calorie foods could save us from death. In modern times most of us are not at risk of starving to death, but those same underlying cravings exist for a reason. When we feel stress, we fall back on those "safety measures". And since there are so many stressors around us, they easily add up ...
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