BellaOnline Forums Family Child Loss Best Advice

When I lost my child, there were plenty of people offering their sympathies and condolences. I also received a truck load of advice on how to manage my sorrow. My question to you is what was the most useful advice you ever received?


Holli Gordon, Child Loss Editor

My condolences to your loss. When I lost my daughter I was not so lucky to receive useful advice.

Is there really any best advice for when you lose a child? I lost my daughter 11 years ago. Of course people talked about moving on, she's in a better place, etc. At the time, NONE of it helped. Only time helped. It is also so different for each person. I have her pictures on my wall, my mom does not. I have a little table with candles, angels and a little picture of her. It helps me, but would devastate others. The only advice I give any more is, just take it one day at a time, if that is too much, then one hour, if that is too much, then just take it one minute at a time. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and discover what you need to help you.