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I was talking to a co-worker the other day, and she was telling me a story about her son and it went something like this:
"...so I tell him, 'David, you must eat your vegetables because Mommy is going to get upset', and he's just staring at me and says Mommy, do I have to, and I say yes, Mommy wants you to or else Mommy will be very upset, blah blah blah..."

I mean, she must have said the word Mommy about 300 times! I know it's to make it easier on the child but c'mon!

Also, when a woman has a baby, a lot of times people will say: mommy and baby are doing well. Why?! Why can't they say Sandra (or whatever her name is) and (name of baby) are doing well?
It's like they changed their first name to Mommy.

It's so very annoying! Anyone else dislikes this or is it just me?

My mum said she always hated this - especially when it was doctors in the hospital and it was just so obvious they hadn't the faintest clue who any of the women were. But yes, couldn't agree more. It's like the official party line when someone has a baby - 'mummy and baby are doing fine' or even worse, I've had several announcement cards that say 'mummy ad baby Alice (or whatever the name is) are doing fine' like the baby's allowed an identity but 'mummy' no longer is!

Let me say that I have been a mother twice and a grandmother 6 times, and I also hate hearing this. From my experience, I have determined that the mothers who do this are young or first-time mothers who have no identify beyond motherhood. In addition, it is a good thing that the child hear the word mommy, but he needs to also hear the words 'I', 'me' or even 'we' and 'us' sometimes. But also the fact that this co-worker had to repeat word-for-word a conversation she had with her child while she was at work tells me she doesn't have an identity beyond 'mommy'.

I once had a similar experience with a newlywed co-worker, putting her husband in much the same light as your example of child. We eventually had an 'intervention'. It is very difficult to deal with on a daily basis.

Yes, the "mommy" thing can get annoying, but what really gets under my husband's skin is calling the child "Baby", as if it's name was "Baby". He absolutely HATES that one. The child has a name - use it!

That does also always stand out about saying my husband, instead of his name. It's actually creepy. It's like these people have become part of the Borg.

Agreed. People who know you will usually know your husband's name and your kid's name, so use them. The terms "my baby" and "my husband" should be reserved for conversations with strangers, not used for conversations with friends and coworkers or facebook status updates to share with your friends.

OMGGGG, YES. This annoys me to no end. "My baby, my husband, etc". Mommy this, mommy that. And when I hear a man/father saying "Mommy", refering to his wife/mother of his kid(s), I want to slam my hand in a drawer 85 times. I was with a girlfriend once getting sandwiches at Subway and she actually asked the employee to "please only put mayo on half of the foot-long since my husband (who wasn't even there) and I are splitting it." Really? Subway needs to know you're married? Come on.

I think there's a discount for being married. LOL

I just don't get it why it is so difficult to say to the kid "I" instead of "Mommy". For sure he/she knows who's the Mommy! So why say it 10,000 times? It's such baby-talk if you ask me.
Weird, I don't see men doing the same thing, at least not when telling a story to someone else.

maybe it's genetically encoded. I kinda talk like that with my dog.