I've heard of the term, but is there a specific definition?
To me, if someone keeps showing up again and again, there's some sort of connection there or a lesson that has yet to be learned. Unfinished business basically.
If a person happens to cross paths with you by happenstance, there is just as much pull from them in one form or another as there is by you. You're right figuring out what that pull is, is the trick.
I remember one time living in IL on the furthest outskirts of town. I was so antsy and it was late and i didn't want to go out, but just so restless, PJ's and all I got in my car and decided at least I could go for a soothing drive. I crossed that town, into the next town over and ended up in a busy intersection of all places. To the right of me a car caught my attention and my mouth dropped but I snapped it back into place real quick. I told myself, no...no way, not possible....
It was my ex that I still had feelings for who then lived over 45 minutes away in an entirely different city. We bumped into eachother periodically over the next 8 months.
He left me back then for drugs and money. He hadn't started out that way but fell into a group of friends. In the end, it wasn't me that was bitter. Though he left in pursuit of something else, it just wasn't the happiness he was looking for.
So, in a way, not only did he have something to teach me, but I had something to teach him as well. Good or bad, it's your heart you want to follow, not anything else
