BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids This probably has already been asked but....

I noticed there was a post about the "biological clock" on the BellaOnline "Married No Kids" forum, and if it existed or not, but what do you think? The idea of this supposed "biological clock" has petrified me. I am firm in my child-free lifestyle. I apologize if this offends anyone, but I don't like children. Never did, never will... But I've seen internet articles (other than the one posted on here) that says a woman will want to have a child, and most likely will if it "goes off". It's a childish way to look at it, but I'm nervous anyway. I don't want to dislike children & be happy in my CF status (which I am completely) just to turn around and suddenly pop out 50 kids. So, I ask again, even though if it's already been posted by someone else, but do most of you on this forum think that a "biological clock" truly exists? And if so, do you think is really has the power to change a woman's mind & force her to have children? I hope not, the very idea makes me sick.

I don't think it does...if it does, I hope mine is broken. I view someone hating kids their entire life then suddenly needing to have kids as more of a strong desire to be "normal" in society than their clock going off.

You're probably right on that one. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's really been getting to me lately the way people think it will suddenly change your mind. I insistently hear "Oh, you'll want kids when your clock goes off..." Well, maybe it's just me who gets that comment. I get some real crazy ones. In fact, one of my relatives commented that, "People who dislike children are criminals to society."

The 'biological clock' thing is totally absurd IMHO. It is a hormonal episode that affect some women.
Like you, I have NEVER liked kids & NEVER had a desire for them,.......and my bio clock NEVER existed.....no interest in that aspect of life. I'm past all that part of life with no regrets. So,I wouldn't fret about it if I were you... enjoy the childfree life! Dh and I certainly do !!!

cp

Alright, thanks for the advice! :-D It's nice to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way.

I don�t want to scare you but i NEVER wanted children either, i was quite content to my lovely life without the rug rats. No responsibilities, life in the fast lane, do what i wanted when i wanted, all that good stuff, life was great cf. But at the age of 36 my clock started ticken, this pesty little ticking, nostop it drove me crazy, what should i do ,i went through all the pros and cons of the whole situation with kids and without and the cons out weighted the pros, but this ticken, it just wouldn�t stop no matter how hard i tried. Till the day came and i choose that road that i always said i never wanted to take.
And i�ll have to say she is the most beautiful, precious, loveing thing that ever happened to me, my daughter of 2 years.
It�s challenging, and hard, it�s not an easy walk in the park, but my precious baby has softened me up, and i have not regretted a day of her life.

Well, that's nice that you're living a life you're content with. But for my list of pros and cons, the cons are most definitely more numerous. Also, I'm definitely not a "fast lane" kind of person. I love staying at home and I'm not very social. To me, the fact that I don't want to have children isn't because it's hard to do (which I'm not saying it isn't), it's because I prefer a quiet lifestyle, a lifestyle where I am all-around happy, and I've found that I'm attracted to taking care of plants & animals MUCH more than a child. It's great that you're living a life that you're happy with. But that isn't a life that I'll be happy with, ever. In fact, I'm pretty much appalled at the idea of myself living that lifestyle. I'm extremely stubborn & glued in my ways, so hopefully no one holds their breath waiting for me to have children, I'd hate to go to a funeral.

Actually, after scanning the internet a little bit longer, I found on a "60 Minutes" article that the mythical "biological clock" people speak of isn't the need to have a child, but the window of when you are most likely ABLE to get pregnant. Not telling you to have a kid. THAT makes more sense than some random voice telling you that you have to force a screaming child on yourself. :D

IMHO, what people call biological clock is only 30, 35, 40 years peer pressure coming down on you. Maybe you don't want children, but you keep hearing what a great experience it is, that there is nothing like it, blah, blah and stories like flower70's all over the place, so when you reach a certain age some women might get insecure, kind of: "what if regret it later? It is now or never!!!!". And I know for a fact that not all stories have a happy ending: Of course some do but those are the ones people love to talk about. Nobody talks about having children for the wrong reasons and regretting it.

I've had people telling me "It's a WONDERFUL experience!" for awhile now, probably a lot of you have dealt with it also, that's why I decided to post here in the first place. When people tell me stories about their little "darlings", I think of slobbering, drooling, screaming things. I think about how you don't get quiet time to yourself. How you have NO control over what your kid does in the future, good or bad, whether you like it or not. It probably makes me sound like a terrible person, and maybe I am, but I AVOID kids & babies like the plague. I see what you mean exactly though. Some people are pressured a lot, especially by family members. That happens to me a lot, but over time I've gotten better with my family's, "You're disrespecting our religion!" comments. Maybe you're right, people who do crack under that kind of pressure might end up having kids because of it.