So to qualify, I'm not married and don't plan on being so anytime soon. HOwever, I have a recently re-ignited relationship with a lovely man from years ago whose son is now 6. I knew of this boy back then, too, but now that we're back together, it seems like an important thing to consider, because we are in it for the long haul, it feels.
I myself am a child of divorce and my dad remarried twice, so I have a familiartiy with being the stepchild and I want to avoid at all costs any of the awkward weirdness that I may have felt as a kid.
Now, the boyfriend has been very understanding and is very OK with my decision not have children (got my tubes tied in Jan.) and has no desire to have any more kids of his own. He's also been very patient with my worries and insures me that he has enough room in his heart for both me and his son.
I haven't actually met any of his family yet (I know one brother from the same circle of friends)and haven't met his son except when he was still a toddler. We're not rushing anything involving him at this point, but even if I didn't want children, I want my BF and accepting him means accepting the whole package. I am willing to do this for him, however...
Do any of you have advice on how to go about things to keep them smooth and easy (for his son's sake)? His mom is already in a relationship but his dad (my BF)hasn't really dated since our brief relationship a few years ago floundered. I love, love, love having him back in my life and haven't been this happy in a long, long while, but I want to make things as easy for his boy as possible...when the time comes. I'm just curious to hear your experiences.
Thank you!
