I think it's more selfish to have a child because of the pressure society places on couples. This is similar to the guilt placed on working mothers - for some it's a choice, for some they need to work. I don't think women need to explain themselves - they don't explain themselves when they have children or why some mothers go back to work. I'm sure we can all agree there are many irresponsible people out there that are raising children that will someday become adults in society taking care of us in our old age. My husband & I have been together for 25 years & childless by choice. A choice we made in our 20's. We both come from very large families where it's expected to have many kids - we just didn't see it for ourselves. Now, 25 years later & 14 nieces/nephews & 4 great nieces/nephews later, many can understand & think we're smart for making this choice. That's exactly what it is in life - a choice. What is the big issue???
