I would like feedback on the subject of child support. THe short story is my husband emotionally, fincially, sexaully, and physically abused me. It is still hard to use all those labels. All the later abuses were less in volume thant he emtional abuse. After he put his harnds on me inculding almost strangling me and pushes to the face, hair pulling ext and a threat to kill me I left for good. I left the country for some months with our daughter (he wanted to abort but now claims to love so but and he forced me to do a dna test for) and now I ame back for a few months to finish our devorice. I choose to give birth to her on his birthday and he doesn't want me to forget it, although it was be doing I chosse to be induced. I am with me parents and I have been avoiding leaving the house unless it is during his work hours and I am in the company of others. He is now getting visitation on Sat and Sun, eight hours each day. I have physical custody, and we are soposse to retain joint legal custody. When I filed for the devorice I didnt' as for supoort, when he filed his rebutal he said that he will/wants to pay suppport as long as he gets visitation. I have been back on forth on this so many times. I can and trying to file so that the money comes out his paycheck by the government and they mail me the check. I has given my parents one check so far for $150, whihc I have not cashed as yet. I forgot to say he never put me or her on his insurance.
My insurance paid for most of my pregancy expenses and since she was born its my money that had to be spent on her. The most he would have done is buy pampers. He liked to play with her when it stuited him but he left most of the cleaning feeding taking care of up to me. When she cried he couldnt take it, when he got easily fustrasted he would be like "here" and shove her in my direction. He took the he has to work in the morning approiach so I have to tend to her at night, wether I had to work to or not. I had maternity time, went back to work, and quit when I left him and I have been unempolyed since. I know it was my chouce and I still glad that I did so, however I been filing lost not have much indentity other than ___'s mom and ___ and __ daughter not being able to work. Plus trying not to feel guilty about not working and having to depend on my dad for money. My dad is still paying for my car and my other expenses and husband since Dec has only given me $150.
We didn't have joint accounts thank God. I am glad that he can't get to me by way of money since the moiney wouldn't directly past from his hand to mine, but I have this naggin feeling that once I get the money any at all he would be more of a threat maybe or a bother. He has bought our daughter about 5 pieces of clothes 3 pairs of shoues an one doll all last month. He has not purchased any diapers, wipes, food, milk as far as I can see. If he finds loose packs of wipes that I left behind he sends it home with the child. He still has her crib although he told me on the phone that he is planning to give it back, she has been sleeping is play pens since Dec. He has not purchased a car seat! He is still borrowing mine and refusing to put her in it, most of the time. He has someone hold her in their lap. I have not laid eyues on him since Dec and I am trying to keep it that way. He has given me back some of my possesions but nothing sugnifigent. Please advise on the child support aspect. Thank you.
