BellaOnline Forums Beauty and Self Journals Journalling issues - mainly privacy

Hi, are there any replies?

CityGirl -

It's very unfortunate that those girls read your journal!

As for what to do about privacy, I don't have any great ideas beyond locking them up. If you don't want anyone to read your journals even after your death, maybe you could ask to be buried with them? It seems like that is more likely to keep people from reading them than asking for them to be destroyed.

Julie

Citygirl,

I wrote a post on my journaling web site that you might want to check out:

(for anti-spam reasons, new members are restricted from posting URLS)

I can definitely understand that past traumas can have a long term effect on how you live your present lives. We see that all the time with people dealing with cheating spouses for example.

Create a will that dictates who will execute your will. Then have as a statement in it that he will burn your diaries. That makes it fully legal and right there in black and white. You know it will happen.

I know you don't want to use anything online or computer-related, but you could still check out livejournal. There are tons of forums/communities, and pretty much any interest you have or question you want to ask, you can find a group for.

Hi Citygirl,

I'm so sorry to hear that those mean girls invaded your privacy. Keep in mind that you were not wrong for writing down your thoughts. THEY were wrong.

Have you considered learning short hand or coming up with some kind of code? I saw a movie about two rival magicians and that's what they did to protect their secrets, they wrote their journals in code. That would ensure that if someone were to read your journal, they'd have no idea what you were writing about.

Citygirl,
I truly understand. I love journaling, but had stopped a while back. The process of journaling itself is very theraputic the abilty to write on paper and let the words flow where they may - much better then on a computer - the problem is someone invading my privacy and reading my inner most thoughts that they don't have a right to.

I have been keeping my journal on the computer for over 10 years now. I am fortunate enough not to have to worry about privacy because my husband is so not the type to read my journals(Yeah, I did test him, many years ago; it would have been a deal-breaker for sure!).

My mother, a journaler herself, taught me the very best hiding place for things like journals, and money too: a big old Kotex box, shoved ever so casually in the back of your closet. NO guy'll go near it! This only works for men, however.