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I am the author of Families of Two and would like to do a longitudinal study with childfree 20 somethings over a 10 year period. If you are 20 something and are interested in being part of the study, please contact me at my blog lauracarroll.com. If you know someone who is twenty something and who is sure about this choice, send them my way! ~Laura lauracarroll.com

Laura, your pm box is full. I will try back.

I'm a 28 year old male, personal trainer. and I don't want kids. Its not that I don't like them. They're great. At a young age I decided that If I didn't have kids by 25. I wasn't having them. If I had them, then I'd want to be young so I can be around them for a long time. I put a great deal of thought into this before making my decision. So I had a vasectomy. Many people look down on me for this. Sure I'd consider adoption down the line. Its not an easy thing to mention to women though. Its an instant deal breaker. And its tough for a guy that has alot to offer in a relationship.

Don't worry Derek, one woman's deal breaker is another woman's deal maker.

Congratulations Derick28 on getting the vas. Now you won't be tricked by any women with baby-rabies. So there won't be any "OOPS" surprises.

There are more women out there than you realize that don't want to be a mommy. I'm sure you'll meet that someone special. You sound like a great person.

Wishing you all the best,
cp

Derek82,

I'm not single but if I was, hearing a guy say he wanted kids would be an instant deal breaker. I'd take off like the roadrunner cartoon!
More and more women are choosing not to become mothers. I also think that there are more than we think, they are just afraid to come forward.
just a suggestion, be open about the fact you dont want kids and the women who feel the same way will be approaching you.