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what does it mean i have been with my boyfriend a year.. and he asks me to marry him during sex. i basically told him i wasnt going to answer this until its done the right way sober, clothed etc. he said he just wants to know where my head is. i dont get it. but the red flags are up. any insight would be helpful

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Is this the only red flag? Because it might not be a true red flag. He must have been overcome with emotion, euphoria and love at that time and blurted it out.

If he still feels the same way when you're both "sober" then he means it.

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he was sober.. and did talk about it after i just told him when and if he was interested in doing it the right way to then ask..

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So, did he?

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[quote=diana6301]he was sober.. and did talk about it after i just told him when and if he was interested in doing it the right way to then ask.. [/quote] By this, it mean that he want it seriously. You should be confident, its the time to change your boyfriend to a life partner. Go ahead and don't miss this moment.

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I noticed you said he asked you to marry him during sex, not while making love. Was this not a loving joining for you? If he thought he was making love to you and was so overcome with emotion that he asked you to marry him, I don't see why you wouldn't be happy about that, but that's just me.

There are certainly many other ways to propose to a girlfriend, but if my boyfriend asked me to marry him while making love to me I would feel wonderful and accept his proposal on the spot. Maybe it just depends on how you view the act of sex and what you get out of it.

If your relationship is strong and loving then your boyfriend may have just felt so much love for you at that moment that he could not help himself. Is he someone you'd indeed like to marry?

I hope I didn't offend anyone. Just my opinion.


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You made a very good point, Cassie67. smile

But for some men, the physical sensations take over the brain and they are overcome with emotion...and it is only temporary. In the throes of passion, some men blurt out things they don't really mean.


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A marriage proposal is a big thing to blurt out unintentionally in the throes of passion. I have a hard time just imagining an unintentional proposal happening, knowing that men in general are less emotional than women. I tend to believe that her boyfriend was serious, but I guess anything could happen...


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My husband first told me that he loved me when he was _very_ drunk and had called me for a ride. I didn't take it seriously (we'd barely started dating but had known each other for a while), but a few months ago I was teasing him about it and he said that the feelings were real at the time but he'd needed his inhibitions to be down to say it.

I'd guess that it was serious, but he asked then because he felt more comfortable baring his feelings when you were (in a way) doing the same.

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Ah, that makes sense Julie.


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