BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Recently made decision to be CF

Hello everyone, I'm so happy to find this forum!!! My husband and I have been married for a little over 3 years. About a year ago, we decided to start trying to conceive. Not even a month after that, I went to the doc and ended up having surgery a week later - diagnosed with stage 3 endometriosis. In January we were told by a specialist that our only decent chance would be with hormone injections and IUI or invitro, which we were against. So then immediately started thinking adoption.....we were also going to keep "trying" in the meantime, because there was still a chance we could get pregnant naturally. So, we had several options available. Well, a few weeks ago I was driving in my car when it suddenly occurred to me: do I even want to have children, or was I just doing this because it's what's expected? I wasn't sure how to bring it up to my husband, but finally did, and thankfully, he felt the exact same way and was relieved when I said it. Only a few weeks has gone by, but we're more comfortable with our decision every day, and are extremely excited about life again! This is the biggest relief, and I'm so thankful that my husband and I are both on the same page with this! Reading so many other CF people's comments on here has been great. Once I made the decision, I felt very alone. It's been so encouraging to find so many other people are choosing to live CF! Problem is......haven't told my parents yet. Any advice? I'm wondering if I even need to bring it up to them. They know about all of the medical stuff, and my mom knows I'm back on bc pills to try to handle the endometriosis problems that are already coming back. So, it's not like they're anxiously expecting me to call any day now and announce that I'm pregnant.........so I'm leaning towards just not saying anything unless they bring it up. Any thoughts?

Hello freedomgirl~
First of all congratulations on choosing a childfree life. Secondly..... your choice, your body, your buisness. PERIOD.
No need to broadcast your decision to anyone. It's a very personal decision. Don't worry about what other ppl think.Just celebrate your freedom ~ enjoy your travels and everything else that you are able to do in the childfree life.(Big smiles).

cp

Your life, congratulations! no need to broadcast it as cp says, my parents are cool with it but we haven't and won't explain to the other side, my mum was with me through the decision making process and is so supportive, my father too is happy, my life, my decision! The other side doesn't ask so we don't discuss. Period. Easier said than done sometimes I know, just take it as it comes and live your lives to the full and you may find as time goes on it's less of an issue, having just made the decision it's new to you as well! I agree fully with CP! J