does ANYONE get HOW these SDs manipulate the fathers? My SD is 23 and her boyfriend is 26 and does NOT WORK. they are now planning to move to vancouver and have my husband "daddy" pay all of the bills as they will be taking one class each and NOT working!!!! He basically "agreed" to it.
I do understand the "guilt" that the fathers feel for the divorce but it was TEN YEARS AGO! Get over it. What exactly do these SDs do that gets to their fathers so much. WHY would they not teach responsibility, independence and all the other parenting things? I do study psychology but i just do NOT get it. What is in it for these men? Is it control? Do they want to squash the development of their children? My SD is 23 and has never paid a bill! She lives with her mommy, and daddy pays the bills - we live separately with our son. To be fair he does give money towards our 7 year old son but I had to force him to start a college fund. Does anyone have any book suggestions of SDs and how to deal. I want to avoid this dysfunction at all costs. I feel sick to my stomach now that the boyfriend is living off of my husband too! What is UP with this? Any ideas? thanks ladies. I feel for just another step mom - wow...how do you deal with your husband NOT paying for your son? That makes no sense at all. It is almost like the SD is the "girlfriend". it is all so weird. I have been a step mother for 10 years and it hasn't gotten any easier although she is pleasant to me but avoids me usually. Thanks! Sarah
