BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids I'm NOT Effing jealous that you had a baby...

Get ready for swearbear's rant #1 (of many): Here goes...I have a cousin who I don't really get along with. She just had a baby...she ~conveniently~ announced her pregnancy a week after I announced my engagement...that's fine..I'm not really that much of an attention hog, so, I let her have all of the attention at family gatherings despite my being super excited for my wedding (we got married in St. Lucia at a GORGEOUS resort that the Celebs stay at..not to mention, I married my best friend and my perfect compliment)...when it came time for our reception for the friends and family back in the states, we decided on putting a "no children, please" clause on our invites due to the fact it was a $100/plate meal at 6pm-11pm with an open bar....this cousin sent her "no" reply immediately, then spread throughout the family that I was so jealous that she had a baby that I couldn't stand to look at hers on my special day. I started getting phone calls and letters from family to the tune of "oh, don't worry...you'll have a baby some day, too." Gee thanks. Don't really want one, but thanks.I ignored all of that, and the cousin decided to come to DC from South Carolina just to "visit with grandma" The entire time, they shoved her baby in my mother's face and kept saying, in so many words, "don't you want one?? Babies are great...don't you wish Jess had one??" I let that go, too...now, they are SENDING ME BABY FLYERS, COUPONS, AND PRODUCTS THROUGH THE MAIL AND SIGNING ME UP FOR BABY ALERT E-MAILS!! How do I know its them!?! The genius used her own baby's name and age in all of the sign up info! They are also sending me pictures of the little one. I am sorry she has gone to all of this trouble, but, I am CF by choice...my BC pills are DARNED expensive for me to want a baby myself. Even if I wanted children, I have to finish school first...I want to see Paris and Rome, and Florence, and Nepal, and India, and Egypt, etc. first...plus, I don't go by Swearbear for nothing...and I DON'T need a little one repeating me...I drop the F-bomb A LOT. ;)Thank you for sticking through this long, long rant...I just needed to get it out of my system!

Swearbear you can rant all you want ~ you've got the right place to do it. I would be so pi$$ed off as well. You should put "return to sender" on all the coupons, baby flyers, etc. I would avoid that bitc* at all cost. You shouldn't have to put up with that garbage. I think she is jealous of you and your lifestyle of travel and freedom.She must be a very insecure person.

Moral of the story: enjoy your life and let her know every detail of every wonderful vacation you take, every new piece of clothing and new shoes you buy, and just how wonderful it is to sleep in on weekends.


cp

The main thing I got from your story swearbear is that SHE is jealous of YOU! You got the beautiful exotic wedding (presumably looked amazing whilst she was waddling) and now have you whole married life ahead of you and your husband to do whatever you want with. She's stuck at home with a squalling brat in a hell of her own making and the only relief she can get is when she visits people and thrusts the baby on them. And I second cream pie with the 'return to sender idea'. Even better, sign her up for every expensive holiday brochure she'll never be able to afford! PS. Your wedding sounds amazing!

It's a shame that some people are so insecure they think they have nothing to offer the world but a baby. In addition to being jealous of your lifestyle, this person seems like she sees this baby as her greatest achievement and heaven forbid anyone would disagree! By rubbing it in your face it makes her feel better about herself. This is a sad person and you need not concern yourself too much with her. Rather than sink to her level by sending her photos of your vacations, I'd just be sure to make the rest of the family understand how happy you are. No matter what you do it won't sink in with her so don't even bother wasting your time.

She sounds completley jealous of you. What a biatch - I think the best thing to do is ignore her and her actions completley. She's trying to get to you and annoy/upset you - don't let her show you she's getting to you at all. She has no right using your address either - if you do confront her, tell her you know she's the one behind it and if you recieve any more you'll report her. She sounds slightly nuts... and how spiteful to announce it after your engagement too. I had a "friend" like that - the're not worth the stress of reacting to, which is what they live for.

If she comes to your house (gawd forbid) be sure to leave a bunch of travel brochures laying around in places where she is sure to see them, and of course all your photos of you and dh enjoying your CF vacations.
cp

hmm. I wonder if your cousin happens to be one of my sister in laws... I recieved therapist business cards ( as well as many other things) when we announced we were not having kids.

I agree. she sounds nuts and probably thinks this kids is the best accomplishment she will achieve in her life. though I wanted to hurl the poo right back at my in laws, I would have only been acting less classy myself.

I like Cream Pies idea though. lay out the attrations of Europe on the coffee table...throw in your report cards from college too!

why do people with kids think we are sometimes jealous of them? I think they are jealous of us and are trying to spin it the other way around. how many times have you been embarassed in public because your kid was making a scene? hmmm, let me count...oh, NEVER! you dont have that problem!

It also sounds to me that's she's being jealous and petty. Maybe she isn't truly happy as she thought she would be when the baby arrived. Then seeing how successful you are just peeved her off to the point where she just needed a way to irk you. People like that enjoy passing on their misery.

I personally think you should nip this in the bud. Tell her openly and confront her on the issue. Let her know your life is none of her business and you'd appreciate if the immature stupidity would stop. Then if things get bad, just cut ties. Family or not, she obviously isn't worth your time anyway. She's just toxic.

Know what I'd do? I sign her up for Planned Parenthood's mailing/e-mailing list. Or, oh OH! Make a donation to Planned Parenthood in her kid's name! Man, that would be HILARIOUS!

[quote=Dolyn]Know what I'd do? I sign her up for Planned Parenthood's mailing/e-mailing list. Or, oh OH! Make a donation to Planned Parenthood in her kid's name! Man, that would be HILARIOUS! [/quote] Let's just say, her husband has been getting NAMBLA recruitment info... :grin: