BellaOnline Forums Relationships Domestic Violence I need help and advic e

I have been seeing my current boyfriend for about the last two months. We have never even had a fight or harsh word. I was spending the night with him Friday and he fell asleep. His phone was buzzing and I looked at it. I found many messages from other women indicating other relationships. I got upset and confronted him. He slapped me across the face several times and called me names. He said it was my fault. He said he had a bad nights sleep because of me. He said that he is going to have to start beating me cuz being nice isn't working. I couldn't leave, it was the middle of the night. The next morning he slapped me again and forced me to have sex with him. Was this my fault? Is he abusive? Should I go back ?

I do not see how it could have been your fault.

Is he abusive? I would say so - in a very dangerous way. Save yourself and get out of his way - out of his life before it is too late. Do not go back. You would only be putting yourself in harm's way. There is a better life for you elsewhere.

Phyllis is SO right! Save yourself! Thank God that you saw his true nature so soon, and run for the exit. Don't listen to any apologies he may make to try to get you back, that sort will say anything to get his own way.

I think the answer is obvious. Of course he is being abusive. If he hits you this early on, I would consider myself lucky to have found out now instead of months or years later when you get too emotionally tied to someone.

sjh1234,

First, it is not your fault! You have done nothing wrong.
Second, yes, it is abuse and I recommend you end the relationship now, before it escalates. Yes, if you remain with him, it will escalate. You will wind up in the emergency room or worse. Please don't go back to him.
Kelli

I strongly agree with the previous posters. You are very lucky to see this guy for what he is so early on. A lot of them hide it until you are comfortable but he was brazen enough to show this early on. Stay away this does not have a happy ending if you do!