BellaOnline Forums Family Step Parenting Needy 19 y.o. SD help!

I can see how this upsets you. It would me too. You really need to have a serious talk to your husband about his daughter. She is 19 and not a child. He loves his daughter, but this very odd. He needs to stop acting toward her like she's a little girl. This is only hurting her, and not making her to grow up. Tell him that you love your SD, but they need to change their actions a bit. The best thing you can do is be honest with him. Good Luck!

Good luck, hun. I've gone (and still does!) through a similar experience. So much that I feel like SD is the "wife" instead of me. I personally think that some stepkids are masters at manipulation. GL! (((HUGS)))

You do have a tough situation and I would feel like his affection towards SD was odd too! Has he always been that affectionate? There should be limits there. If you have a decent relationship with the ex, maybe asking her (carefully and discreetly) if their relationship has always been that way. I personally would not hang on my father at any point. Hugs and affection are there, but at appropriate times and always in a father/daughter way. I'm not sure how you could even begin to approach him if he becomes defensive. The fact that he feels as if you are suggesting an inappropriate situation tells me that he himself feels it on some level. Lots of luck to you! Keep us posted on the developments.

Thank you for the feedback ladies! I agree with all of you. I feel like this is inhibiting her and teaching her seriously unhealthy balance for her future relationships. I don't want her to be the needy girl in a relationship. I hope I can find a good time to talk this through with him.