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Just out of curiosity -- is she using any hormonal birth control? That can absolutely kill a woman's sex drive.

Who is in charge of birth control????

If she is - YIKES !!!

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I'm guessing she doesn't use birth control. The one positive of the rare physical time spent together.

Nope. In a desperate effort to rekindle things and find a reason I suggested long ago that she get off of it. Didn't seem to make much difference. I deemed it to be all mental or attributable to inherent personality traits after a while. Had to at least explore that possibility though. Good thinking though.

Get out now...your life already sounds intolerable, and it will only get worse if an accidental pregnancy happens. Trust your instincts on this one...you're reluctant to go ahead and have kids because you have absolutely no compatibility, either sexually or on an emotional level. I suspect you're staying in the relationship because of cultural or religious reasons (I think you said you believe in staying married). I've seen this so many times. It's not worth it, if you do stay and have children together, besides the fact that you don't seem to want them, the children will know you hate each other and you will not be providing a good model of marriage for them to follow later.

I don't see this ending well if you stay in the relationship. If she's not on birth control and wants a kid, I would not be surprised if she ends up pregnant. Even if she doesn't have much interest in sex, if she really is desperate to get pregnant, she will probably agree to sex only at more fertile times. Then you will be stuck with a child you made clear you were not ready for. Sadly, the child will suffer, knowing it was not really wanted by one of its parents. It's a bad situation all around, but bringing a baby into it will only make it worse.