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Thank you for taking the time to write such a passionate response! I got the distinct impression that you are experienced in being on the receiving end of this kind of behavior and could relate well to my situation. Regarding his possibly flirting with me that day sheerly for his ego boost, I would hate to think that is all it was. Given my shyness with men and determined effort to indicate nonchalance above anything, I am not quite sure he was convinced I was interested in him as a romantic possibility. He was the one making all of the compliments and most of the gestures; my only outward flirtation was my hand caressing down his arm and a smile as we parted ways. Yes, I was attentive to the conversation and obviously spent the time with him, but a part of me, just a hunch, is still not convinced he left with a feather in his cap. You probably read all of the responsive posts, including mine, so you know how I feel about making contact. I am against it, especially since so much time has gone by without contact. I reiterate from an earlier post that nothing was said between us about getting together socially at some point, and that our telephone numbers weren't exchanged for the usual male/female reaons. That actually may be a factor in this equation. Your thoughts would be welcomed on this when you have a chance.

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Originally Posted By: NatashaSerenaAshley
I believe it�s okay to let a man know that you are interested. But if he doesn�t call and SHOW that he is interested in pursuing me, I let it go. The end. Just like that. I don�t obsess about it. I�ve had enough experience to know that if they don�t actively pursue me, they�re not going to be worth my time.


I subscribe to every single word, I relate, also out of experience. It seems though nobody learns from other people mistakes, when you are young and/or unexperienced you always end up making up reasons for a guy not to call. Even if you know, you cling on to your little hopes and suffer a little or a lot. Actually, if a guy doesn't call, the most usual reason is he doesn't want to, or not enough. Forget him!

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New development: I just referred an acquaintance of mine to this doctor, and she will probably call him. Anyway, as our first contact since the meeting in my post, I emailed him with a simple greeting, hoping that he was doing well, etc., and then the next paragraph detailed my acquaintance's recent medical issues. My closing was a whimsical reference to his semi-diagnosis during our conversation, and that was it. Nothing forward or flirtatious at all; however, I did venture to make contact, which was big for me, if you have read my earlier posts. Yes, he responded after two days and graciously thanked me for the referral and encouraged her to call him before she made any decisions. His P.S. was a recommendation to have my spine checked, which addressed my whimsical closing in my message, and then he put a winking emoticon next to it. So now there are two benign pieces of communication after about six weeks of no contact. I guess I didn't need anything more benign in this mix, but I am sure you responders will tell me that I asked for this in my rather "professional only" message. He responded in kind. Hm-m...

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I responded to his message detailed above and gave him some more info on his prospective patient. I told him his P.S. made me smile, and that I would think about the option of getting my spine checked out. I signed off with another whimsical saying, and he responded by saying that he didn't see me at the beach that day (no, we didn't make arrangements to meet there, nor was any reference made earlier in our messages), but he was obviously looking for me. He also mentioned that I am entitled to a free 30-minute massage if a patient I refer makes/keeps an appointment with him. He teased and said I must be smiling now with wink emoticons - the works. I wrote back and teased by asking who would be doing the massage in his office and pondered whether it would be a burly sumo wrestler, and I attached a picture of the biggest one I could find. My caption under the picture made reference to my really needing a chiropractor after that "reward". I have not yet heard back from him. Could it be that he was somehow offended by this? Did I take two steps back in our communication to nothing again? I don't know why he dropped me like this if he wasn't turned off by something. Then again, it could have nothing to do with my email. UGH! Any thoughts??? Do I apologize or what?

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Flirting is easy...following up is not!

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