My partner and I have been together for 11 years. We have his 16 year old daughter living with us fulltime. She has been here for three years now.
She steals from me. Goes into our bedroom and helps herself to what ever she wants. She lies to us. Manipulates us, her friends and the rest of her family members. While I do not entirely blame this girl for her behaviour as her mother is EXACTLY the same way and SD is just living what she has learnt, I still find it extremely hard to deal with.
The long and the short of it is how do YOU not resent your stepchildren? Maybe it is just me but I am in a bad place and I totally get a ball of resentment sitting in the pit of my stomach. My nerves are really bad but only when she is around. I do feel bad about feeling this way towards her. I truly thought in the beginning that I would be her mentor and savoir, of sorts, as she hated her mother (sad part is....she IS her mother in the way she acts and conducts herself)
Is it just me or are there others that feels somewhat the same as me? How do you deal with it?
Thank you for listening to me.
Namaste.