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Hi Everyone - I am new to this site. My husband and I have been married for a little over two years now. He is my soulmate - I know that sounds corny but he is what completes me. I have a son, he is 9, from a previous marriage. My husband and him have an amazing relationship, he is a great father to him. When we got married, we decided that we were not going to try to have childer until we were married at least one year. Recently I have been asking about expanding our family, and have seen some reluctance on his part. I thought it was maybe due to his career, or that he was just scared. In the meantime, my biological clock is ticking very loudly, as I am 34. Oh and my husband is 30. A few days after Christmas I brought the subject up to him again - he responded saying that he doesn't want to have children. He likes his life the way it is and feels that is not something that is missing from his life. So, now after two years of marriage and the thought that we would always have children of our own, he changes his mind and now I am left to grieve the children we will never have together. I can't function, I don't see joy is anything, I feel like everyday I am just going through the motions. I dont know how to move past this. And I don't understand how he gets to be the one to make this decision...I dont know what to do...can anyone help?

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The thing is, you either answered your own question in your post, or you didn't. You said your husband is your soulmate.

This isn't a decision anyone can make for you, or even help you with. You have to look deep, deep down inside you have decide if your desire for another child is greater than your desire to be with him - or have a sit down honest discussion with him about exactly how much it means to you to have another child.

But either way, cherish the son you have.

Dez


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