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Oh, this is a tough one and I will be walking on egg shells, but low and behold I had a consultation with a woman who had grave concerns for her son.

She said his grades were starting to deteriorate and he was defensive in particular with a certain teacher. This was an unusual situation where I had a photo from a school newspaper, the student was present and the parent. The student felt this particular teacher was out to get him - always giving him a hard time.

After the reading, I told the parent I felt her son was sincere. I didn't feel drugs were involved but that the anger he was feeling could lead to drug use. I asked if I could tag along to an after schol event and meet this teacher or just be in in the vacinity.

Everything I felt from then newpaper lined up and I actually caught this teacher caulking his jaw at the woman's son. I didn't do a reading for the teacher, obviously, but what came through was resenting the boy because he reminded him of himself when he was younger. My heart just sank for the woman's son. He was right to the core and would just have to endure it until school end.

IF your child has a grievence about a teacher, please offer the possiblity that child is right or picking up on something that might be able to be explained. If you have a child who is always claiming people are hating on them or they're being mistreated, that's a bit different. But often our children can see things we can't at the moment. It never hurts to have sincere communitcation trying to get to the bottom of the matter.

I din't mention this, but hopefully parents have already considered setting up a meeting with either the teacher or principal. I don't know that I would bring up specifics to the teacher about how my child felt because it could inadvertantly work against the child after you leave. But making some sort of record of the situation, in my mind would be a wise thing to do in case the situation escalates to something more?

Thanks for the post!
I ALWAYS investigate and meet with the teacher when my child is telling me that they are having a problem with that teacher.

Example -my daughter was having a difficult time with an english teacher. I made an appointment with the teacher who spent most of the time being very negative about the students. She even said that my daughter took a test the other day and probably failed it like the rest of the class. She said (very nasty) "watch I'll show you, she probably failed it anyway" and pulled my daughters test off her desk and graded it - My daughter got a "A". She turned very red and apologized profusely. From that point on - no problem.

It's very sad these days that so many possibly good teachers are so burnt out that they take it out on the kids - many of whom don't deserve it.

I make my presence known every school year. I meet every teacher and tell them all the same thing. I've given you 3 e-mail addresses and 4 phone numbers to reach me. If you e-mail me at work during the day and I'm not in my office - it goes to my Blackberry so there is no excuse for you not to reach me if my child has an issue or if there is a problem. I check in many times during the year. I like the teacher to think of us a team to ensure that my child get's through the school year with good grades.

My youngest son tested it ONE time and was surprised when I showed up 15 minutes after the teacher called me. :-)

I hold these teachers accountable and I've told quite a few teachers that they were being a bit negative in their comments...and they've agreed.

This is not to say that there are not thousands of wonderful teachers and I definitely can understand their pain dealing with kids and parents who don't give a ...whatever...about their education.

At the end of the year, I always send an e-mail thank you to the teachers that my children have adored as well as the teachers that we've had "problems" with at the beginning of the year.

This is not to say that kids may occassionally not be telling the truth, but I like to give my kids the security that I give them the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

Hi Elleise,

I don't think this is a tough one, but I do know what you mean.

Your post is timely, as usual for me ! We just had an issue with my daughter's teacher, but the issue involved many children, not just one. A meeting was held between the parents of the children, the principle, and the Monsignor. The teacher was not present for the meeting. Only two parents did not want to hear a single negative word about the teacher, the rest of us wanted answers.

The meeting did not go well, many parents walked out unhappy, and fearful that their children will be targeted AGAIN by the teacher. So far my daughter says things have settled down, and she's not had a problem since the first incident.

Someone called the news stations, and the two parents begged the rest of us not to talk to them. I don't know who called the news stations, but there wasn't anything to tell them anyway.

My daughter's teachers know who I am, as does the Principle, who knows me well. I have been involved with my daughter's school for almost 20 years, this is her last year there, and I am glad it is her last.

Lol, I don't check in that often anymore, but whenever I do, it is defintely "timely"!

Oh teachers! What a profession that doesn't get recognized for the hard work they do daily. Blessings for those who do so well.

With that said... In my combined 24 years experience of public school we have found there are a few teachers that have become comfy in abusing their position for what ever reason. Have become so job protected they can do whatever they want. So listen to your child because we were given the gift of being put in charge of them. They need someone to be on their side! Journal the problem. Start climbing the ladder until someone in power can help you make it stop.

Fresh example: Our child came home Friday and told us he had to fill out a sheet explaining his religious beliefs, food restrictions and holidays. Ummmm this is Health class. I don't quite see how this ties in. Under normal situation it wouldn't bother me, we have nothing to hide. It is that for some reason this one sent up a red flag. I checked the energy or intent of the teacher. Lets just say my spidey sense tells me I need to drop her a letter.

Mumzy

I can't tell you how much influence a parent's attitude affects a child. Even if you wish you could provide more financially, the security of faith in a child, and being there for them as a person, spending time with them, is a gift that keeps on giving!

I'm not suggesting going overboard, all of our kids are capable of not acting as some point or another in the regard they or we might hold of them, but fair, honest support is something they really will end up growing into and passing on, generation after generation, within their own families someday and/or socially

Hi Anna,

You know it's funny too. The night before I had this urge to get out of bed and post this particular post. But, I have insomnia (clinical) and if I even get up to go to the bathroom, I'm up for the next 3-6 hours. The next morning, straight away I got up from bed and opened my computer (auto-pilot) and just stared. In my head though I kept hearing, "You needed to post something important...you needed to post that thing from lastnight." But I couldn't remember what it was. I wouldn't even surf the net until it finally came to me again. Most of my posts are fairly casual unless it comes to the gov. or a "message" of sorts. We must be working with the same network!

I had a friend who worked in the public school system. She said the politics were just "gross." Things I can't even talk about in the forum and socialized with the people outside of work to know enough they were all true. You're dead on about the "protected" positions too and burn-out. They just aren't movitvated to try I guess. Many aren't that assume they're granted things without effort.

But that's a lot of personal info. that I'd be sensitive about giving out. You never know where it goes once you give it to someone. These days' you can almost expect it to go on a computer. Do they cook in health class? Maybe they don't want to serve pig-roast (like in home-ec) say the child is Jewish and following Kosher laws. For us, health class had to do alot with how our bodies worked, sex ed and all that. I don't know what they do now.

Regardless, I though all that was protected by law/private, like you weren't alowed to ask those type of questions?

Talk about timing.

Watching Medium. Tonight one of the story lines has to do with a teacher who has it in for a boy in Ariel's class and fails to give him the grade he deserves. It's half way through. Hmmmmmm.