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1st - take your bed back, girlfriend! its your apartment! never have/had sex? he doesn't want to but he wants to watch porn? that isn't right. sounds like he has some issues.and since he continues to do it even though he said he'd stop makes him a liar and likely a porno-addict who may be incapible of getting it on with a real person. doesn't sound healthy to me. not that age matters, but a guy that was 31 started dating a 19 year old. he couldn't find someone closer to his age? he went for someone who was likely a freshman in college? did he have his own place before he moved in with you? if it were me, I'd be asking for my key back.

I know how you feel; my son's father was the same. We had a good few months in the first year where we were having sex all the time, and then nada. I know his sex-drive was fine because I caught him looking at porn all the time. The trick in this situation is to try not to treat your partner as the bad guy, and approach him, talk to him about it. Ask him why he looks at porn. Don't demand or be angry, just tell him you'd like to know. Ask what he gets out of it that he doesn't get from sex with you. So many couples don't talk about sex, but I'll be honest with you, I think not talking about sex in a relationship is like not talking about money; it's a problem waiting to happen. Also, the fact that you sleep apart is not good, regardless of the sex you do or don't have; the only nights my partner and I sleep apart is when we're having serious fights; the rest of the time, we'd rather be together, even if just to cuddle or reassure each other that we're still there, that we're not angry or upset with each other. There's such an emotional distance between couples when they sleep apart; even if you're not doing anything besides cuddling and kissing, sleeping in the same bed has serious benefits. Good luck! His_einna

I understand that you love this guy. But you have to love yourself first! Please don't sleep on the couch in your own apartment. That's not good. If anyone should be sleeping on the couch it's him. Most men watch porn, I don't think that would alarm me. The fact that he shows no interest in you at all is a bit worrysome. Is there a possibility for you to go with him to the counselor? Maybe he'll open up to you about his problems when your there. Whatever you do or decide. Make sure you are happy with your choices first and foremost.