Spending time alone, wherever it might be, is very helpful for me when I'm dealing with memories. I always feel as if I have to put on a mask somehow when I'm around others if I'm really struggling with something. Then again, one of my best coping skills is talking things out. So I guess it kind of sounds like I'm contradicting myself. But if I do decide to talk to someone, that person has to be someone I know is "safe." My definition of safe is someone who will not tell others what I'm revealing to them; and they also won't judge what I'm saying or give me advice that I don't ask for. I guess, in other words, I have to completely trust that person. Oh, and I just thought of another key thing for me. Journaling is something I used to do every day. I almost never do anymore. But if I have something that's really bothering me, especially if I'm not sure exactly where it's coming from, journaling is wonderful. It works almost every time. I just start writing with the first thing that comes to mind and write whatever pops into my head. Eventually things get shifted around to where the problem is; it's like God makes me aware of it when I've found it.(see? ask me one question and you get a book for an answer!)